great grays out there and on Houzz we have some Ideabooks created just to help you with this; just put "how to choose the right shade of gray" in the search box and click on "Ideabooks." Voila!
I'd look at Sherwin Williams Software/7074. Want something a bit warmer? Look at Ben Moore's Chelsea G
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