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Emotional Process Of Remodeling
December 5, 2012 in Other
I just felt the need to share feelings and thoughts with those of you going through this process.I guess because I am curious and because as much as I thought remodeling would be fun fun fun,it has turned out to be all consuming and stressful. I wanted to have a place where others can share regarding what its been like for them. In some respects I think if money as no issue I would be happy and be done by now.But knowing me I would still be undecided 3 yaers later. One really hard issue for me has been the feeling of disappointment I feel from my teenage son and mother. As the head of household and person who manages the money , its been my job alone to buy the house and remodel it. Well I decided to kinda take it apart after I moved in even though that was not the plan.Some people are planners and savers. I am more impulsive and creative, maybe a little too impulsive. At first I loved shopping for furniture and I always loved looking at modern stores and new ideas and art. But as I learned for the first time in my first house, there is so much to learn. I knew nothing of taking care of a house but with all the demands of life(and being disabled with back pain),its become more of a nightmare. Instead of just doing one room I chose to do the whole house as one. I see these great pictures on houzz and think,I can do that or parts of it. I start planning and imagining but yet few things actually get done. For me anyway I have needed to hire handi-men to lift and build etc. I dont have a husband to do it all and I am sure others who are single( or have lazy husbands) can relate. The financial issues are huge and I know my son cant fully understand. Parting with 10k or 20k is huge for me when I have very little as it is and am almost 50. When I read some discussions on here and see the remodels I think, wow I wish I had that house or money to do that remodel. She has it easy. Maybe thats not the case. But for me I am just trying to find a way to be happy and grateful with my decisions and what I do have and not keep beating myself up daily that its not done and that its not perfect. Well I think I said enough. Please share your thoughts on what you are going through and how its been in your house. Right now I am considering polished concrete which means I have to pack up the entire house and get it into the garage or out of here. Stay in a hotel for 5 days with my son and mother, just to get the floors done. I am just sooo overwhelmed by it all. Its not a happy process. Its demanding and stressful.