When choosing a color palette, look for neutral or jewel-based tones. Wood paneling also fits in with a traditional look, and ornate moldings are a must. Get the look on a budget: Installing a chair rail around the room will add a finishing touch.
Add symmetry to a room with a pair of blue-and-white urns. Filling porcelain with something fresh helps make the look applicable to all seasons and all holidays. I would put greenery or flowers in these to really make a statement.
This picture is an example of the pillow and wall colors dictating the rest of the room. See how the colors are different but they all come together in the pillow. This is what I was thinking for the family room in terms of a pillow that pulls it all together - not necessarily this pillow of course