Problem No. 4: Doing housework inevitably leads to an argument. In most relationships, each individual has a very different approach to housework. One might be a neat freak, for instance, while the other is a complete slob. The best thing to do is be up front about your cleanliness preferences — and try to be sympathetic about your significant other's. Of course, that only goes so far, so assigning chores and sticking with them is really the best bet. Yes, it feels childish. But it also works. Come up with a chore chart based on what needs to be done weekly and monthly in the house, then post it where both of you can see it. Make sure that it feels fair to both of you: Try to give each person the chores they like and rotate the ones that both of you hate.