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How has building a house affected your marriage/relationships?

sweet.reverie
7 years ago

During the course of building our house (which should be completed in July) many people have told me that building a house is one of the most stressful things you can do with another person. Have you found this to be true? How have your relationships suffered or improved?

For me, yes, DH and I bickered more over the last 10 months than we usually do. Luckily we have pretty much the same taste and I trust him with bigger decisions (septic placement, etc).

We also have two little people under 4. I feel most guilty about my relationship with them. There have been times I have lost patience because I HAD to be on the phone and they chose these times to act like crazy people or I have had so much on my plate, sometimes I just want to plop them in front of a movie to give my brain a rest!

I know in the long run, building this house will provide them a wonderful place to grow up, but sometimes it feels like a short, but very dark tunnel, lol.

What are your thoughts? Experiences past or present?

Comments (78)

  • sanveann
    7 years ago
    last modified: 5 years ago

    We are very early in the process, still -- I think we've been doing good so far, but I think budget will be the stressor for us.

    My husband is normally a fairly laid-back (and rather indulgent) guy, but with so much money on the line here, even he is starting to wig out a little. I think a lot of things I would really like to do (especially in terms of trim) will have to wait. I know that's his biggest worry -- is that I'll start saying, "Oh, and we need this! And this! And this! And I can't LIVE without this!"

    And I know -my- biggest challenge will be accepting that some things will just have to wait and that our house may not look like what I'm picturing in my head until further down the road. (Which is probably for the best, because with 3 kids under 7, it wouldn't stay looking gorgeous for long!)

  • ppbenn
    7 years ago
    last modified: 5 years ago

    My DH and I are contracting this house ourselves and now that its to drywall finally we are doing all finish work except cabinetry. We are not professional builders but have had this major remodeling "hobby" for 30 years now. We have our own business and a farm in addition to this build. So although I focus on the house full time I have about 20 hours a week where I have to be focused else ware.
    This build has had MAJOR hold ups, hurricane Sandy, and health issues, for instance but nothing we haven't been able to deal with on our own and a GC would NOT have been able to deal with better.
    That said we are so ready to be finished and are getting a bit short tempered and impatient.
    We have no "us against them" outlet; no real clear division of duties. We just both do what we need to, to "get her done".
    DH left this AM for his 6-day semi annual golf trip to Florida. Thank God he is able to go and enjoy himself. I will not be able to go anywhere until after move in day; no way could I enjoy a trip at this stage, that's just me.
    One thing that keeps us together on this project is the great home we will have when finished, the accomplishment of creating this new homestead for our family. If we get to paying attention to what others, extended family/friends think of our madness, well then we can get a little sideways. Some acquaintances have distanced themselves from us. Not sure what that's all about but we are focused on this build so don't have as much time.
    A this stage of life we have come through many other stressful time periods that we have had no control over. Illness, disasters, economic downturn; this building a house is in some ways what we have control over and to be cherished as such.

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  • zorroslw1
    3 years ago
    last modified: 3 years ago

    I also know this is an old thread, but I hope galore2112 reads this.

    "Write checks and pick out paint colors?". HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA ! It's obvious you have never built a house! That cracks me up.

  • worthy
    3 years ago
    last modified: 3 years ago

    Remind me never to build a house in Portugal!

    I often say that my battered chequebook is my most essential building tool. And that's not a joke.

    Some posters here are actually diy first time contractors trying to adapt to a new world.

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    The first time mrs. worthy saw our first new build was when it was finished. The second build, she came over twice during construction.

  • Terry Watson Jr.
    3 years ago
    last modified: 3 years ago

    My wife and I owned our 1st home together for 10 years. We wanted to sell our home and move to the country. My wife had her mind set in not living in a zero lot neighborhood. I went along. We sold our home and lost a little on the sale. My wife promised it would be worth it later. She and her parents worked up the idea for us to move in with them until We could find something. We looked for a home that was in our budget and everything was going fast as soon as we found it. My wife stated that building would be more affordable and we would get what we wanted. I was very skeptical but went along. That's how this marriage has worked. She wants I say ok. After 13 months of living in a small bedroom of her parents home with everything we owned it 2 storage units, we now have found 2 acres that we borrowed money to purchase. The loan is $200 a month. We found a builder out of 3 that we got estimates from. Ok, we found the one we likes. Price was right, he @nd his wife seemed to be good hard working Christian people. We got a loan for the house build. After almost 5 months, everything we know has gone wrong. We have fought so hard to make things work up to this point. Fighting, stressing out over being over budget on everything because the builder under bid on a lot of stuff. We have taken on the clean up, the landscaping, we layed the flooring in upstairs room ourselves, cut corners everywhere. House is within 3 weeks of being done. We are still over budget by 4,600.00. She pulled as much from here 401k as they allowed. That paid for the dozer and crushed concrete for driveway. Now I'm going to do the same with my 401k loan. With us being over budget I'm looking at using all 2,900 of loan,plus our income tax to possible make this work. We are stressed to no end from cutting corners, working every weekend and after work some days. We are not doing well. I want to walk out.....she doesn't want the house. This is only because we have been so stressed. We do love the house. We are not even sure if when we finally finish if we can even afford it all. With the loans, maxed out budget, etc. I think our marriage and this build is on a crash course. We need help and I'm not sure where to turn or what to do besides pray. Maybe in 2 months I can come back and update this post to if we are still married and are in the house. That's my story, praying we can just hold on.

  • Terry Watson Jr.
    3 years ago

  • just_janni
    3 years ago

    ^^^ I really feel for you. It's hard when something becomes this "all consuming" - of time, energy, resources ($).

    I don't have any words of wisdom - as I am in the "middle" of a long, hard, expensive build myself. It sucks. But try to focus on how much you do care about each other - and that this was meant to make your life better. It WILL end.

    Keep talking to each other too - you sound like you are likely stronger together than apart - so talk about the "situation" and try not to create blame - but share your concerns. it's helpful and cathartic.

    Consider yourselves virtually hugged.

  • madpebs87
    3 years ago

    Hope things work out!!!! that's why we have put a wonderful piece of property in golden isles of Ga up for sale. We are great together but the thought of building and things that need to be done, uuughhh. I read to many horror storys on here, yes many are great accomplishments but oh the bad ones scare the bajesus out of me for the same things your going through.

  • Terry Watson Jr.
    3 years ago

    Thanks for The comments. All of this does help.

  • cpartist
    3 years ago

    I too am in the middle of a nightmare build. In our build just about every single thing has gone wrong. And we started 3 years ago with stars in our eyes. We got our permits in October of 2016 and are still not in.

    The thing to try and remember is it's just a house. You and your spouse are what make a home and that doesn't change whether you're living temporarily in your MIL's basement or in that beautiful new home.

    Can either of you maybe take on some temporary extra work maybe one day on the weekend doing anything to try and make up the overage? Dog walking? Baby sitting? Waitressing? Bartending? Or freelancing using your work skills? I know that's not ideal, but at least if you know it's a temporary situation until you just get back the extra you weren't expecting?

  • txcook
    3 years ago

    We lost our home of 21 years in Houston to Hurricane Harvey. 3 feet of nasty water in there for a week caused too much damage to repair. And then there was the mold. It had never flooded before in its 54 year old life. Within the prior year we had done “the last remodel”, and planned to be carried out feet first. My husband very much wants to rebuild on our lot and I just want my life back. But I will walk down this road with him for now (while still scouring the real estate market for something he will agree to move to!). I know God has a good plan for us, but whoever said to expect the unexpected was right! I appreciate the comment from rwiegand about deciding it would be fun and keeping the perspective that none of this is life altering in the big sense! Coming up on 38 years in April and I want to grow old with him. Thanks for everyone’s input. I spent so much time on Gardenweb during a big remodel 15 years ago. Looks like I am back!

  • ILoveRed
    3 years ago

    God bless you Terry. It's just a house. Sell the damn thing for what you can get out of it and move thee to an apartment and start over. Get both of you out from under the albatross that you have created and do not rob your retirement accounts for something that has destroyed you and your marriage.

    thinking of you.

  • Mark Hedrick
    3 years ago

    We are in the process of building, have received pricing from 3 different contractors, and are in the very beginning phase, this is our first build, kid's are grown and are not living with us, we are both retired and can do all the running around that needs to be done. I'm sure this is going to be stressful but I hope in the long run everything we both envision will become a reality. (and staying within budget) I will come back after the build with pictures and hopefully have some input as to how building a home together and staying together works out. Pray for us. :)

  • Terry Watson Jr.
    3 years ago

    Since I am past that point I will give you just a tad bit of advice make sure that you have some money somewhere so that you can use for the overages because they will have them for sure. Good luck

  • DLM2000-GW
    3 years ago

    Oh Terry I do feel for you. There is nothing I've found to be as stressful as building a house with the exception of having a child in ill health or in trouble. I don't have any advice to help with your financial constraints and agree with ILoveRed that if selling is an option it's worth considering. No dream is worth your marriage or your health. That said, there's an undercurrent in your post - subtle but troubling - that you're pinning this on your wife. My wife had her mind set in not living in a zero lot neighborhood. I went along. We sold our home and lost a little on the sale. My wife promised it would be worth it later. She and her parents worked up the idea for us to move in with them until We could find something. We looked for a home that was in our budget and everything was going fast as soon as we found it. My wife stated that building would be more affordable and we would get what we wanted. I was very skeptical but went along. That's how this marriage has worked. She wants I say ok. Now maybe that's just the stress of the moment talking and if so just be aware how poisonous holding those beliefs can be even if it's just for a moment. But if you're really blaming her and not owning your acquiescence as equal in the decision then you're being unfair to her and not being honest with yourself. And carrying that into a new house that you already know will continue the financial stretch will keep it from ever being the home you dreamed of. That's 36 years of marriage talking and we've seen our share (and then some!) of times and issues that tested us beyond what we thought survivable. In the end, you have to want her and your marriage more than you do a house. I wish you luck but even more than that I wish you a peaceful heart.

  • Pinebaron
    3 years ago

    X5: Fifth home build. Feel bad for my DW, yep this one is stressful for her but she's hanging on, just a very long build; she'll be happy when it's done.

  • One Devoted Dame
    3 years ago

    That said, there's an undercurrent in your post - subtle but troubling - that you're pinning this on your wife.

    I read Mr. Terry's story in just about the opposite way you seem to have, DLM. With the information presented, I view her as having the lion's share of responsibility for causing the stress -- I just get the feeling that he'd be "damned if he did, damned if he didn't," regardless.

    Of course, none of us will really know, so my speculation is worth just as much as anyone else's, lol.

    Hugs to you, Mr. Terry. Lots of 'em.

  • DLM2000-GW
    3 years ago

    That's my point, ODD - due to the way the info is presented he appears (to me) to be blaming her or holding her responsible and that may or may not be his aim. Unless he had a gun to his head, he was a party to these decisions and bears a degree of responsibility as well. But that's history and what matters now is how he frames and holds their shared options and actions going forward. They come first, the house a distant second.

  • Suru
    3 years ago

    Mr. Terry, I feel so bad for you. My husband and I are in the midst of one of those hard builds and it can definitely take a toll. Your house looks lovely in the picture and it looks like you are just about there. I hope when you move in everything will work out for you.

  • strategery
    3 years ago

    Halfway through my full custom. Very stressful and hard on marriage! I will never do full custom again.

  • Terry Watson Jr.
    3 years ago

    One Devoted dame and DLM, I really appreciate the post from everyone. Yes I was very stressed that night I wrote that post. I look back and feel I was pretty harsh in blaming my wife for things she had no way of knowing the outcome. I am embarrassed by my lack of reserve in that post. I love her unconditionaly and she loves me the same. Before this house build we have only been in a hand full of arguments the entire 10 years of marriage. We will succeed because our love is stronger than ever and our friendship is the best. For every single one of your posts, I want to say thanks for the kind words and prayers. I to will say a prayer for each and every one of you to overcome any obstacles that come your way as well. Sincerely, Terry W.

  • mgh_pa
    3 years ago

    I haven’t even started our build and I’ve considered pulling the plug already and just buying a home (although we had been looking for 5+ years before acquiring this land with no luck). Not so much due to the stress (it’s just a house after all...too many people place too much importance on it), but for the financial aspect. I would love to be able to retire before 50, and that’s actually a possibility if we’re smart about our money. I’m slowly coming to the realization that there’s nothing financially smart about building new. It’s always going to cost much more than to buy, but you’re paying a premium for customization and often, location. Something we have to weigh as to whether it’s an absolute must for us.

    In the end, we will probably still end up building, and if/when that time comes, I sure hope it’s not as bad as it is for some of you.

  • DLM2000-GW
    3 years ago

    Terry I completely understand how stress sometimes does the talking - we've all been there. Now go give that woman a hug and tell her everything is going to be ok because you're in it together.

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    last modified: last year

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    last modified: last year

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    We have been gutting a house that we are living in and doing 80% of the work by ourselves . We having been building for 2 years now and have another year to go.
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    Yes we argue yes we play the blame game when things go wrong, when you live in construction it takes 2 times as long to renovate, I wouldn’t recommend living in it,
    we are also only working on weekends.
    Not often do we go to bed mad, but I do find that that’s all I can talk about and not many people care or want to lend a hand, is just us .

  • roccouple
    last year

    So much depends on your builder. We got very lucky with ours and we are about a month from done. And it hasn’t been bad. It’s sort of like having to do tax returns monthly. Just stuff to decide and get through and keep track of. work and time, sometimes tedious. More exciting than tax returns but similar in that there just stuff to do and so many details to juggle.

  • Buzz Solo
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    Hal and I are s now a little over 2 years into our build and things didn't start out as perfect as I would like. I woke up one morning and discovered he had decided on the final shape of our house without me, (assuming, I believe, that I had said sure go with that L-shape when I thought we were still discussing a square house,) and ordered the shell from the pole barn company.


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    Oh well.


    However since then, things have gone fairly smoothly though occasionally one of us will get, shall I say, a little strident when things aren't going as well as we hoped. But we don't go to bed mad and don't blame each other. I do tend to push to get things done a little more often than he does, (otherwise the windows would have been ordered very late).


    Maybe it also makes a difference that we aren't together 24 hours every day of the week. He stays at his mom's house a lot, just 3 miles away from the build while I go home at night because of my dogs. It will be interesting to see how we go forward though with the stress that we haven't been able to sell our current house, (market in northeastern MI still hasn't recovered from the crash more than a decade ago,) so we are basically out of money to construct the interior.


    Could be a long and frustrating next few years.


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    Jeffrey R. Grenz, General Contractor
    last year

    Since 1996, at least 75% of my custom clients have remained in their homes.

    When the process is done properly it's a project that they have worked on together.

  • Pinebaron
    last year
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    To everyone here: get at least two really large pieces of Black tourmaline rocks and place one in your primary area like family room/kitchen and another in your bedroom, I use the second one in my office. It works well for us, negativity and disagreements reduced by 95%, I could not believe how well it worked for us, two extremely strong personalities. I managed to locate and purchase these large natural rocks while we were vacationing in Spain last June, these are around 6"x2"x2". If you can't find large ones, buy a few smaller ones and put them in a flat dish or something.

    I did other things too, to improve our luck and so far it's working.



  • DLM2000-GW
    last year

    Pinebaron I must say, your last post surprises me. I don't know you (obviously) but would never put you in the woo-woo crystals camp! Now before anyone jumps down my throat, that is said mostly tongue in cheek. I pretty much don't discount anything spiritual/mystical - if it works for you in your life who am I to say otherwise? A dear friend is WAY into it, arranging specific crystals with the moon and other astrological changes and I do scratch my head but it has meaning to her. I'm curious what prompted you to incorporate this in your home.


    Buzz Solo you deserve a medal. Already 2 years in, some significant decisions that are not what you wanted, a difficult housing market..... and you still come here to report your progress on the build thread and be a cheerleader for everyone else even when their builds zoom past yours. Hopefully frustrations will not be as significant as you anticipate going forward.

  • Pinebaron
    last year
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    @DLM2000-GW No I was never in a woo-woo crystals camp ever; then tried and it helped. Why not! We moved across the country and it was primarily my desire to build an even larger home designed from the ground up by us, and DW had to make a million decisions, all this caused a lot of stress particularly when it was a two year build, I worked a lot out of state and she'd have to come and review the work and report issues back to me, a lot of stress indeed 'due to my build and exacting standards'.

    However I'd do anything to make my other half feel better. Then while on a trip to Spain, in Malaga, in an open market I saw a vendor selling all sorts of stones and I was looking for a black stone for decorations when I discovered that one and read about it and bought two of the largest ones the vendor had. I put my disbelief's aside and brought them home, put them up and the rest is history. What can I say, she's a happy camper now; sheer coincidence? Perhaps but I'm not testing it.

  • mushcreek
    last year

    I found that conspicuously cleaning my .357 revolver kept arguments to a minimum.

  • Pinebaron
    last year

    @mushcreek LOL

  • Buzz Solo
    last year

    mushcreek, lol, that wouldn't work for either of us as we both know how to use guns but, I also know how to break kneecaps from all those karate classes I took, assuming I can get within reach, DH is 7 inches taller than me. ;-)


    DLM2000-GW, I hope things improve soon, till then we will keep plugging along. In the meantime I am doing lots of research on counter materials and fireplaces, appliances, etc. And fiddling with the floor plan. Every so often I get AN IDEA. (cue DH rolling his eyes.)


    Pinebaron, if it works I won't knock it. I'm starting to think I need to get one of those St Joseph statues to bury upside down in my yard. I'm ready to try anything to get this house to sell. (Short of dropping it another $40k). There must be someone else out there who would like to live in a knotty pine house in the middle of a cedar swamp in northeastern Michigan!

  • Pinebaron
    last year

    @Buzz hope you sell your home soon; wishing you best of luck one way or another.

  • mgh_pa
    last year

    I have found that finding a common enemy in our builder has helped create a unified front with each other. We're too busy being stressed out with our builder to get mad at each other. We're just anxious for when he is done and we can take over and do things correctly.

  • Pinebaron
    last year

    mgh_pa: then one day its such a relief when its all over and we don't have to plan the next argument, chat or estimate with the builder.

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    myricarchitect
    last year

    From the beginning my DH accepted that the house is never done and never will be done. All he asks is that 1 project be truly complete before starting another (no unfinished loose ends dragging out for months/years).

  • Architectrunnerguy
    last year

    From the beginning my DH accepted that the house is never done and never will be done. All he asks is that 1 project be truly complete before starting another (no unfinished loose ends dragging out for months/years).

    A finished house is a listed house.

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    Mark Bischak, Architect
    last year

    Along that same thought process: The best time to sell a house is the day the construction is finished.