I'd live with it until you can do a kitchen reno. I think the style leap from your cabinets to your new, modern style is probably too great to solve with just a backsplash.

If you really want a change, maybe you could somehow remove all the uppers on the range wall, install a stainless chimney hood, paint the cabinets (black?) AND swap out the backsplash it would look less dated. I think.

Your cabinets look fine. Have you looked at recycled glass? It would be different, more transitional, rugged and maybe less prone to dating.

Nope. Countertops on the horizontal plane are much less bossy than your traditional cherry cabinets. Especially the cabinets surrounding the range. Just one opinion, though. Others may disagree, I just don't think putting new countertops on dated/not your style cabinets is a good investment; I have two friends who have done it and regretted it years later.

As an aside... does your kitchen layout frustrate you? If you do go down a reno road later on, swapping your fridge and range locations would probably function much better for you.

I think your kitchen cupboards are absolutely beautiful, as they are. Although the suggestion to paint them black would be fabulous and what I would do, your husband said he didn't want anything dark or black, so that's out. Think neutral but not dull (slate grays, soft whites, rich beige). I agree with the comment that the whole reno should be done at one time because that is the only way you're going to get a flowing, consistent, and soothing look. Doing it in bits and pieces may look disjointed and mismatched. In the meantime, design the look you and your husband love then execute it and you will be very happy that you waited.

Here's a quick example what I mean about swapping those range wall upper cabinets with a chimney hood and painting the cabinets to look modern like your table...

I had my kitchen floor changed first because I was changing the den flooring andvsince my kitchen opens to the den and breakfast nook i just carried the same floor into the kitchen (which is very close/similar to your dining room flooring)Later I had my cabinets painted and added new hardware. Then later I had my a new backsplash and counter installed. The pint I am making is that it’s ok to not do everything at once. Maybe one kitchen project at a time? For me doing one kitchen project at a time allowed me to focus on getting the look i really wanted. And maybe not every single thing would need to be changed to make the whole kitchen redone. If you like your kitchen floor just update the cabinets with paint..... maybe the same color as your trim in the adjoining room .... and if paint your cabinets and add new hardware you maybe fine with your current countertop and all you would want to do after that is change the backsplash. I do agree that if you decide to paint cabinets during that time you might also consider removing the arch over the range .... that sure would open up the whole area and adding a stainless chimney hood. Good luck! Taking your time is ok!

Granite is not out of style. Your cabinets are not dated.

Do not base these important decisions based on something you read or for that matter what someone says on a forum, though what someone says may give you an idea, and that is fine.

I can see how the table isn't working with the kitchen countertop. The cabinets are really lovely. They lean craftsman, which does not always mix with "modern" but a competent designer who can look at these surfaces in person could be helpful. You should consider quartz because you have more of a chance of finding something that compliments both the table and the cabinets.