I used SW Alabaster. A decorator suggested SW Snowbound. When lightning is dim snowbound tipped green, Alabaster tipped taupe in my opinion. I also have Low E glass, I understand that too plays with color. With and without light on.

We are in the process of remodeling our kitchen and our designer suggested we paint the cabinets and trim the same white color.

Your paint color is actually nice and fits the style of the house. What you might consider is changing out the backsplash. The size and style of the tiles do not fit with your granite. Have you looked at glass tiles in colors that will mix your cabinet color and the granite colors? The tiles can act like throw pillows or a scarf. When you want to blend colors you add something to mix them. The glass will match the sheen of the granite as well. You can get sheets that mix glass, stone and metals all in one and are gorgeous. Glass subways can change the way you look at the busy granite. Looking at your last picture, another thing that may help, would be to change the color of your trim from bright white. This would be a bigger project, but you may want to consider calming the white doors and trim.

Stick to white for the cabinets and the same as the trim is a good idea. I hope you are getting the cabinets painted by a cabinet refinisher not the guy that painted the walls . IMO unless you have done lots of cabinet painting DIY ones never last .