If your walls are off-white I would not have white curtains, but rather also off-white curtains. I wouldn't buy a carpet if your husband doesn't like it. I'm wondering what you do in the living room that makes your carpet wear out so quickly. Try the polypropylene rugs at esale.rugs or rugsUSA. Make sure you buy a pad which will make the carpet last a lot longer.

I'm confused about the furniture in the living room. All I'm seeing are three haphazardly arranged chairs.

OK, thanks. I will look at the rugs there. The dogs and kids are just very hard on the rugs. The furniture is not in place. We are still doing some painting in that room.

I would choose the rug first then the drapes to go with the rug.

100% polypropylene, which makes it hard wearing and easy to clean.

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