Are you keeping the feminine bedding?

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Will it fit in the walk in closet?

You can change out the hardware.

You have to create a home that brings together the best of the two of you. Stop the masculine / feminie stereotypes. No pink or flowery comforters in Master Bedrooms.

Start looking at Master Bedrooms examples which are current in style. You'll find they have types of elements, like upholstered headboards, and multiple pillows that women often like with straight-line cabinetry that please the men.

Hey guys! Thanks for your tips so far. None of the items pictured in the room belong to us. (the pic is of the sellers furniture, we haven't moved in yet). Definitely not planning on flowery bedding. My biggest gripe is just how dark the dresser is. Looking to lighten the room, not darken it. I was thinking of a colored (not girly) upholstered bed to warm up the space. I'm just having a hard time finding a dresser to complement his. Contrasting woods seem clashy, but the ones I'm seeing that are a color (white/light grey) seem too opposing in style. Beverly, the second pic you sent is close to what I had in mind, just maybe with pops of bolder colors.

Any chance you can get nightstands from the same supplier the chest came from? Sometimes the manuf. is heat stamped inside the drawer.

Unfortunately no. He bought the dresser 10 years ago and we checked and the supplier doesn't have anything like it. I liked your point about men liking clean lines in cabinets. That's what I'm having a hard time with. I don't want to do opposing color AND lines. So I'm aiming for something lighter (ideally white even) that has a close enough style/aesthetic that it won't clash. The only idea I had was something similar to below. But not sure if it doesn't work with the lighter wood. Maybe I could stain the drawers to match his?

For your dresser I'd avoid any wood tones. Go with something painted, which will definitely work with your fiance's dresser. Same for the night tables.

Would his dresser fit in the walk-in closet?

I'd also think about "lightening up" his dresser with a fabulous mirror over it, probably in a metal finish. That would also make his dresser look purposeful in the room, rather than an orphan piece.

I think dark wood pieces look rich and grounded in lighter rooms, and love the look. The blog "for the love of a house" does this look so well,

https://fortheloveofahouse.blogspot.com/2012/05/south-guest-bedroom.html

IMO get a dresser for you and put his in the walk in closet but really I for sure can’t help without seeing your stuff inthe space so once you are in and have the bed and the bedding come back and I for one will have a much easier time helping. Right now we have no clue as to your style or anything else.

Room is huge, light walls, light floors, why the issue with the dark wood dresser? I'd get a man-sized Wingback Chair with dark legs to set next to it, like this one in Wayfair.

Agree with beckysharp that a few dark wood pieces are nice in lighter rooms for contrast and grounding. How about the frame of your upholstered headboard in the same wood tone as his dresser, then you'd have your darker stained floor with a light area rug or room sized rug on top, there's your three elements of darker wood, done.

First thing I would do for that room is tone down the very yellow oak floors, they need to be at least a shade or two darker. Even that color now does not look good with light furnishings and bedding. It's best to keep wood tones within one shade of one another for contrast, further apart than that and each will feel like they're floating away from each other.

That is a beautiful dresser. It would look great in a British Colonial style bedroom, with lots of white linens, pale green/blue walls, a few easy to care for plants like pothos. Maybe some a wicker or rattan dresser for you? Or white painted? Don't try to match. One dark dresser won't make your bedroom dark.

Even beachy styles often have a few dark pieces for contrast and interest.

I wouldn’t worry about color when buying dresser and nightstands, more importantly consider what will suit style wise. The room below has a great combination of light/dark and feminine/masculine which would work well and highly suggest that before you buy anything to look at lots of inspiration pictures so you both can come to a decision on the feel of room. Much easier to have an overall plan to work from.

Don't ignore your boyfriend's wants. It is better to have a happy relationship than your own way alone.

I’m curious about what the dresser top looks like - I see some wood top something behind those books. Personally, I like the dresser - it has some character & looks pretty solid. But my house is filled with arts & crafts style Stickley - some vintage, some new, all dark But different tones. I also have lots of color & light.

I think you are on the right track by bringing in a dark tone into a lighter dresser... something like this, its lighter but has the dark tone in it to coordinate. I like the dark dresser too.

i actually like this one too... could have darker tones in dressers and then just bring in the lighter feeling in bedding to keep it light feeling.

Theresa I love that first one you posted! Can I ask where you found it? That's exactly the feel I'm going for. Not looking for something girly, just don't want to bog down the room with all dark wood everywhere. I think something like this would complement his nicely.

both are from west elm...just thinking, are you planning on doing bedside tables too? need to keep those in mind too. maybe 2 black matching metal bedside tables. you have a very large room so having two darker dressers wouldn't male the room seem dark as long as you bring in lighter tones in other areas.

Maureen I like your pics too! I think classic modern would def work. Like I said, the dresser isn't what I would pick, but I'm fine with working with it. It's just that he is the type that thinks the only way to match furniture is for it to be identical and I def don't want to have all dark wood furniture in the room.

do you have pics of the other walls in the bedroom by chance and your upholstered headboard? also thought I would show metal bedside tables with dressers...

There is nothing wrong with his dresser. It's a nice piece. All the comments re possibly putting his piece in the closet could also apply to you. If you don't want to match his style, or closely complement it, just get what you want and put your piece in the closet. That way, you will just have his dresser to contend with; and there are a gazillion beautiful darker wood nightstands that would complement his piece. The rest of it, you can keep light - I.e. upholstered headboard, bedding, lamps, accessories, etc. Again, there is absolutely zero wrong with his piece and his taste. You are fortunate that he has agreed to give up a lot of his things to please you. But it is really not fair for you to expect him to give up everything... And I also think you may benefit from expanding your understanding of what quality, classic furniture looks like. Grey wash is already over.

Thanks freedomplace for your thoughts! I definitely do want to complement it, just not match it like for like. As for putting it in the closet, that's not an option for either of us as there are already builtin shelves in there. And perhaps I should have clarified. I am also not bringing along any of my current furniture as he is not a fan of any of it. There is def nothing wrong with his style, it's just not my personal preference. Hence trying to find a style for the overall room that will appease both of us, whilst also working with this one piece of furniture.

Your bedroom is huge! A dark dresser won’t make it dark and dreary. Choose some pretty bedding that you like and get your color ideas from it. I have a very small guest room with a floor like yours and a dark dresser. I changed out its black hardware for brushed nickel and got some brushed nickel lamps with white shades. Since it is a guest room, I wanted neutral rather than overly masculine or feminine, but it doesn’t look dark.

Style-wise I disagree with many of the dressers suggested above. The ones with thin legs/feet or pale wood will look spindly and insubstantial next to your your fiance's dresser, which will look clunky. Neither one will benefit from the contrast.

I would describe the dresser as Mission or Craftsman style. Look for a painted piece if you want a lighter look. Either completely painted or the top left wood. https://www.pinterest.ca/pin/195202965082772863/

https://www.pinterest.ca/pin/255579347579038829/

https://www.pinterest.ca/pin/392939136209050957/

https://www.wayfair.com/furniture/pdp/lark-manor-castagnier-9-drawer-double-dresser-lark2418.html

https://www.wayfair.com/furniture/pdp/lark-manor-castagnier-5-drawer-chest-lark2415.html?piid=16494374

Theresa, I added another pic of the other side of the room in the post. We haven't picked out a bed yet. I like upholstered in general, but open on color. I initially was looking at neutrals, like the one below. But I was also considering a color. One thing we do agree on is that in general we are both fans of pops of bold color. I liked this teal bed, and thought it might be a good way tie the dressers together, as the style seems like it would complement both. Thoughts?

thanks for the extra pics, lots of room for two dressers it seems. love love love the bold teal bed, were you thinking bed between the two windows?

one more thought... you could do two 3 drawer dressers that would double as dressers and nightstands on each side of the bed. to replace the 6 drawer dresser piece. might be able to save money buying 2 pieces vs 3...

Theresa yes, def planning on bed between windows. Then one dresser on each side of bed. I figure it allows a little more forgiveness for contrasting dressers if they aren't right next to each other. I'd love to do the larger nightstand as dresser option but I def need more drawer space. Happy you like the teal bed. I love it too!

I like the side tables that Theresa Janssen posted. If the dresser stays in the room, I would add another wood piece in the same finish (ex. mirror, bench).