These are the two different floors. The picture in the left is my stairs the the picture in the right is the tile we are installing. I love my wood and would like to refinish the wood to look like the tile. Would love some ideas, or names of people that do this.

My first thought is that I would choose a tile that is more timeless and coordinates with your wood floor.

It appears you may have to have your wood stairs done with a grey pickling wood finish. You can google that. I recently had my new wood staircase stained to match my porcelain wood look tiles. Best of luck❣️Please post a picture when your project is completed. I would love to see it. Sounds beautiful.

The wood-look tile has a specific "brindle" (stripe) look to it. That is rare in wood flooring. You can find it in Ash and Hickory and some lower grade Maple. The stripe is something that is there or it isn't. Your stairs do NOT have it. The pattern/look will NEVER come. Ever.

Now to the COLOUR. The gray is going to be SERIOUSLY difficult to do on red oak stairs. Super-duper difficult. As in, "Tear your hair out...wailing...." type of difficult. Which leaves the PALE skin/flesh tones. That's MUCH easier for red oak.

When red oak is sanded down (ahem...palm sander on stairs = not a lot of fun = plenty of $$$ to a pro) it turns this pale flesh tone. Or very close to it. This colour can be preserved by using a high-end water based finish like Bona Traffic HD (satin would go well with your tile gloss level).

What will that look like with a CHUNK of flesh toned stairs in the MIDDLE of a zebra striped floor? It will look ... how to say it, how to say it ... gawd awful.

The fix for a skin toned stair in the middle of a zebra forest? Stair runner in a gray/cream colouring. Sigh.

So...the REAL fix would be: Find a stair runner that works with your tile. Have the carpeting company come in and do the measurements and suggest the WIDTH of the runner on the treads. Find out how much of the tread will be visible on either side of the runner. Now you bring in a flooring person to strip the OUTER EDGES of the stair and finish them (yep...leaving the old finish in place....it will save ++$$$). Have the carpet runner installed and off you go.

But to be honest with you, I would recommend another tile. The sample you are holding has 3 repeats in it that I can see. That means there will be HORDES of repeats throughout your floor. And the striping will be the Elephant in the room. You will see nothing else but the stripe. It will be busy, busy, busy. And then, it will be busy. Right after that...busy.

You might want to ask yourself what it is about the tile COLOUR or PATTERN that attracts you. If you can narrow it down, you might be able to find a solution that isn't quite so....busy. And that option might be easier for your stairs to match.