@Kendrah 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Yes! What would really be helpful is Grace and Frankie's Rise Up toilet. I've wished that actually existed so many times. BTW, the Up n Go can be set to differing "ejection" pressures, so hopefully Mom won't faceplant. But have that intellectual reading handy.

Oh Grace, Frankie, and their toilet are wonderful!

I'm not so concerned about my dad having dedicated office space. He can zoom at the table and my mom can come to our place and chill with our dog who she loves. If she is sleeping or reading quietly, my dad can come to our place and do his zoom call. He has gotten remarkably good during covid at using zoom and doing meetings wherever he is. He doesn't care at all about his backdrop. And he is so sought after for his technical skills and advice, I don't think the people he volunteers for would care if he zoomed from inside a garbage room! He can also use our printer, scanner, fax machine so they don't need one over there. I do think a good charging station would be helpful as well as a shelf for his workstuff.

(Also, I fully intend to use that gigantic closet for overflow storage from my apartment. We have not storage units in our building and man, could I use the extra space for air purifiers, serving platters, out of season clothing storage, extra cans of wall paint and more!)

Kendrah - I tried out a few layouts based on your wish list. The bed is queen sized. The table is 42" square with armed dining chairs. The reading chairs are wingback style with a side table for lamp and tea. TV is sitting on narrow console.

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@marilyncb, great ideas! Hope OP finds them helpful.

Great additional information. I think you now have just about every potential layout. Let us know if you would like to try others.

Thanks mdln. It’s an inspiring project and a fun challenge.

Marilyn, these are fantastic. They makes me feel like we'd have the ability to purchase these pieces, set up one of these layouts and if we decide we want to try another one, we just shuffle things around and see what we like best. So much more freedom than I anticipated having and it makes it less scary to commit to buying pieces when you know there is flexibility.

I love too that there are so many unobstructed walking paths. Especially great for running to the bathroom in the middle of the night! And, as someone mentioned, it is a pretty far run to the bathroom.

I wonder if someone makes a bedside commode that has less of a geriatric nursing home vibe. My mom still feels young, only 76, and it is very sad to see all the hardships she is suddenly experiencing with her health. If nobody makes such a thing, perhaps I have a new business venture in my future ala Grace and Frankie!

In case anyone is looking at this thread in the future - I just found some attractive bedside commodes. For some reason these are UK and Canadian and I'm having a hard time finding ones from the US.

Here's a not so ugly but still sort of medical

https://www.drivedevilbiss-int.com/products/bath-safety/commodes/85/ts-130?c=40

and then some that look like ones from your list but looks like you can get it in US

https://bigamart.com/product/homecraft-bedroom-commode-bedroom-chair-with-built-in-commode-seat-for-discrete-and-convenient-bathroom-access-home-decor-and-stylish-incontinence-chair-with-ergonomic-shape-for-comfort/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw8eOLBhC1ARIsAOzx5cEoBH-bO29z4NP51ZqHDYB92U5hW4QPf4Dm6Ct8-Ez7ztyJyw_HYOgaAsZ8EALw_wcB

https://www.ebay.com/itm/302702372510?chn=ps&norover=1&mkevt=1&mkrid=711-117182-37290-0&mkcid=2&itemid=302702372510&targetid=1262749491582&device=c&mktype=pla&googleloc=9009739&poi=&campaignid=13920139121&mkgroupid=125393259552&rlsatarget=pla-1262749491582&abcId=9300613&merchantid=113394850&gclid=Cj0KCQjw8eOLBhC1ARIsAOzx5cF5KaI27-omu_gq6sEgDafjsJbTAgAzjmt_nb3IPUVWNu57K_djqdcaAvmFEALw_wcB

http://www.unitedhealthsupply.com/Devon-Commode-Chair_p_62945.html

Good luck!

You know - can use every inch for storage - all wall space, even ceiling, like a garage.

Having completed a geriatrics rotation, passing through that "dressing" area to get to the bathroom is concerning. Suggest keeping it as uncluttered as possible, with good lighting on a motion sensor.

Based on your description of your aging parents (I am aging), I see the size of the living area inviting and easy to decorate to meet their needs. And, that's that. Put one or both in a wheel chair or walker, or a need to make a fast trip to the toilet? They won't make it in time. A tub? You try it...pretend you are in a full leg cast (pretty much what arthritis can make you feel). Try getting that leg over the edge. Try take a bath. Try getting up and out. Try calling 911.

Find something else.

Thanks Kendrah - so glad you found the layouts helpful. I think you’ve got the space you need to set up something really comfortable, and you’re right - the best way to really decide what works is to be able to move the core pieces around the space and experiment with different possibilities. Good luck with everything!

A portable tv stand is always worthy of consideration in a small space so options as to placement can be kept open. Behind a table, the table becomes a desk.

Choosing tall pieces that provide maximum storage for minimum floor space used and choosing pieces that provide dual duty can also be helpful in fitting what is needed in a small space.

In a bedroom, an over the door and window height shelf w/hinge top door can provide out of the way out of season storage.

There are walk in tubs but, to me, a larger shower with room for a shower seat or room for someone to provide assistance as/when needed is a better idea -- and choose as the shower fixture a hand held that can be hung on the wall as a standard shower fixture might.

TIP: if you don’t have sliders, get a bunch. They make moving furniture a breeze. Lowe’s and/or Home Depot or Amazon carry combinations for both wood/tile floors or rugs and carpet.

Opps

Funny that hubby and I were talking about these differences- that a man in 90's lives where he walks up a few flight of stairs ... others, certainly not. It's unknown how long a person can adapt in current housing arrangement. It could be years and years.

Having your parents nearby strongly outweighs any of the "less than perfect" aspects. Good for you and them!

This is a wonderful idea. In several years your parents won't feel like traveling 7 hours, so enjoy this now! It will be empty a good part of the time for now, but it will serve well as an extension of your own living space. My aunt lived in a beautiful downtown condo. Mrs. M lived down the hall and also owned the studio next to my aunt. She kept her gowns, good jewelry, and out-of-season wear in it! Which was fine with my aunt because it was nice and quiet next door.

Will your co-op allow you to host other visiting family in the studio?

Judianna, I have learned with aging family you make plans as sensible for the space you have and adapt as needed.

Two of my family members have had parkinson’s and they each had extensive rennovations to make their homes wheelchair accessible anticipating the need. Neither was ever in a wheelchair.

We had lots of adaptive furniture for my grandfather because of a bone deteriorating disease. When it came time that my grandmother would benefit from it too because of horrible arthritis, she had developed alzheimer’s and refused to use it. (If you’ve ever dealt with the disease you know there is sometimes no changing someone’s desires even if they are totally irrational.)

Another family member who I cared for with dementia had a fantastic shower set up. He refused to bathe and it was all sponge baths for him on the sofa, bed, dining room chair, or wherever else he happened to be sitting and we could trick him into one.

The red flags I see in this space so far are distance to the toilet. But again, I have had family members with ensuite toilets very close to the bed and they still had to use a bedside commonde, so I assume we’ll use one here too.

Other red flag is the tub. If that gets to be unsafe or painful, we live across the hall and have a walkin with grab bars.

Hallway leading to bathroom safety - it is five feet wide. I’d like to keep 3.5 feet of clear walking space and used motion sensor lights.

I love the story about the apartment for gowns and jewelry. Fantastic. At least two other people who have owned our apartment have also owned this studio apartment at the same time. I guess it is a NYC thing. My coop rules are not specifc about length of family stay, only about subletting rules.

And yes, I think once covid is over (when will that ever be?) I have friends who will flock to visit and spend time in the studio, and perhpas stay for longer visits in a comfy bed vs our current air mattress set up in the office!

Could you add a door directly from the kitchen to the bathroom? It could be closed in later.

Could you invest in a really great Murphy-style bed that includes built-in storage, flip-down nightstands, built-in lights, etc? If they are more formal people, they might like to be able to have the bed invisible in the daytime, and the possibility of some kind of entertaining. An extendable table that is just for the two of them normally, but could seat four or six if extended, for example, so they could move things around and seat four people in armchairs or around the table for a meal, then shove the furniture away and pull down the bed at night. By day it would function more spaciously for living and for entertaining visitors.

I would personally be unhappy having a proper bed in my living area... I live in a studio (alone) and use a convertible sofa. I'm sure my space is smaller than yours, but I have two convertible sofas and could probably open both to sleep a guest if I just moved my bedding chest/coffee table out of the way. I know sleeping on a fold-out (European ones are more space-efficient than American ones and don't have bars in them) is not for everyone; I'd love to have a proper bedroom and a real bed again. But at the same time, having my bed on view in my living room is just too slum-like for me. Two facing sofas and an armchair from Ikea that has a small footprint means I can have up to six adults for meetings in my flat and seat seven comfortably with no bed on view. If I wanted to or could lose my desk/office area, I could put in a Murphy-style bed and still have room for my small eating table (seats up to four) in the space where my desk is, move the table at night, and fold up the bed in the daytime.

I just like having intimate spaces not on view, simply. Nothing of my personal stuff or sleeping arrangements are obvious to anyone who comes into my flat. Recently one person who comes regularly for small classes I teach in my flat looked around and said, 'You don't have a bedroom?' There is absolutely no part of the flat not visible to my visitors, and he has been here tens of times, but I guess he just assumed that since he could not see any bed or signs of anything like sleeping or dressing in my studio, I must have a bedroom... somewhere. Careful thought about hiding the bed means that my flat is fully living space all day long, and only becomes a bedroom at night.

Yes, many people who have studios in our builidng has murphy beds and they really open up the space. I dont think it is a good idea for them though. My dad’s wrist and shoulder arthritis is getting really bad and my mom has a bad back. We have a very generously sized living room in our apartment across the hall and they are always welcome to spend time there. I dont think they will be doing much entertaining as they have no friends in NYC, but they could always use our living room if needed.

I’m thinking of just hanging a tie back or very narrow floor to ceiling fabric panel next to the bed if the head of the bed is on the north wall. It wont give privacy but just the suggestion of separation. I think this space is too small for two people to pretend they are in different spaces or have privacy. If they were young and tripping and moving things were not an issue, a lot could happen in this space. But they are very in love after 56 years of marriage and think they will be fine with no privacy.

We have also done a separate space for my parents (now my father). The comments about doorway width, grab bars, etc are great. Maybe a murphy bed with additional storage on the "west" wall? They sound very active and would need lots of storage. Some of the newer designs I've seen are laid out quite well, easy to use, and would allow a tv over the bed. Definitely the chairs by the window, lovely. Maybe consider redoing the bathtub to be a shower only.

My sister had the tub issue when her husband aged. Rather than paying to rip it out, they found someone to cut the side of the tub, leaving a lip to step over. That plus a handheld shower head did the trick. The workman saved the piece that was removed so it can eventually be replaced. Was only a couple hundred dollars, the edges were finished smoothly, and it works really well.

It's not a very big room but here's an idea of layout. The table is a 30 inch square and the plan is to scale. The TV is a flat screen on the wall.

I didn't read all the comments, but I'msure you have a ton of great ideas. 

I was thinking if your parents refuse to move, if you can take advantage of the opportunity to buy, you should still buy the unit anyways and prepare it for them. If your parents are active, and engaged, they may very well not want to turn their lives upside down just yet. 

I had been noodling over selling my place and buying a duplex or something similar, but then my mother's cancer took a sudden turn and she passed quickly. Now my father refuses to move or make changes,  and I'm worried to death. 

Good luck.

I advise against any kind of non-substantial room divider or non-anchored down tv tables. I am 79 and healthy but sometimes I want to hold on to something. My grandmother, years ago, grabbed the the shower curtain for balance and fell doing herself damage.

Having taken care of aging parent and just had knee surgery can relate to parents needs. Small is good when older and having walking and other issues.

The bed: make sure not too high, todays mattresses or too low. No heavy wide side frames to bump the knees to deal with. A bench at foot of bed, with arms even better, to hold pillows, spread and store sheets etc as well as a resting spot is ideal. No enclosures, drapes etc to get caught in. Clearance both sides of bed for getting in and out. Any way for bed to be in lower left to decrease walk to BR? Easy bedding to make the bed.

Bath: For now pretty grab bars rear of shower, a vertical in front/side for getting in, one for toilet too. Easy reach tp. Replace shower head with hand held, easy to do. Get over the top tub slide over bath chair. Replace toilet with ADA “comfort height, “ no unsightly add ons. For future start process to change to low curb shower even if take years. Curb less near impossible in existing building. Renovate when they are visiting other relatives. Lots of nightlights. At some point a commode will be needed at night for safety. It is what it is and can be stowed away in daytime.

Table and chairs: A rectangle table with drop leaves is much more practical than round. Can snuggle against a wall or furniture and takes much less space. Lift up leaf for more paper space. A round always going around in middle of a room in the way.

Wing/comfy chairs with ottomans: In the window alcove. Between chairs a table with shelves or even better a small “bachelor” chest with drawers to hide all the small stuff want handy that didn’t know you wanted and certainly don’t want to get up and retrieve. Nearby book shelve also handy if readers.

Dressing room: going to need most of that 5 foot width for walkers etc. If can, recommend installing shelves with cubbies 12 x 12 attached to walls not free standing. Each cubby holds tops, pjs, underwear, folded pants. With arthritis hands hard to open drawers etc. Shoes near bottom but not too low down. A bench. Make sure not too low, next to cubbies. Why a bench? So can grab clothes and put down next to them while dressing. And a resting spot down that long corridor. Hooks for some clothes would be good too. Yes clutters the room but cubbies disguise most of it and look neat. Long shelves become a jumble. Sometimes just hard to reach a clothes bar.

Tv placed so can be seen from chairs and bed.

Every piece of furniture has to have multiple purposes and storage. With careful planning the studio can meet their needs and desire for independence quite well.

The idea of providing an apartment for your parents is lovely! You are a good daughter and sibling. Before you go to alot of expense, though, you should consider how everyone would deal with medical access. I assume that your aging parents already have a team of doctors they feel comfortable with, but they are seven hours away from your proposed apartment. My husband has significant medical problems and we recently moved to be closer to his medical team. There may come a point where easy access to doctors becomes pretty important to your parents and they may not feel comfortable with having to establish a second group of doctors in your city. It seems like a family meeting might be an important first step in your decision-making process. If your parents love the idea of having their own space when visiting you, I'd recommend checking out your local senior services. Many states provide information about aging in place and some even have people who will come out, look over the apartment, and provide you with specific information on how to make your space safe and comfortable. In the meantime, you can check out the ADA guidelines for aging in place and consider whether you can modify the apartment to handle the wider doorways required for walkers and wheelchairs, which is sort of the first consideration in determining whether a home will work for an aging person.

First…..”tall” people should have a king-size bed. I’d place it on the left wall, and add two nightstands with lamps. Give them a bright, airy sitting area with a loveseat and two wingback chairs near the angled-window area. Consider the wall behind the refrigerator for a TV in an entertainment armoire. Give them a dining area, including a round, drop-leaf table with four chairs just outside the kitchen. A dresser and other storage can go in the dressing room. Be sure they have enough closet space…the walk-in closets may be sufficient.
I would skip the tub and put in a nice shower (low entry) with chair-height tile bench in the bathroom. That will allow for a roomier vanity with drawers for storage and a narrow linen closet in the bathroom.

Not a pro, just some thoughts: Must the kitchen and bath room stay where they are shown in your original plan?

Not a fan of having either a stove or refrigerator by a wall.

Unless the hinges of the refrigerator are to be on the countertop side -- which would be awkward -- the wall has the potential to prevent the door from opening all the way to pull out the veggie drawers for cleaning.

A stove next to a wall on either side -- but especially on the right side -- can be a fire hazard if there is a grease flare up., It can also be very awkward for a right handed person (most but not all people) to set a filled, heavy pot or pan on a trivet on the counter if it needs to be moved off the stove quickly to prevent something from burning, especially if there is already something on the one counter space beside the stove.

A sink by and below a window makes working at the sink less of a chore. Second choice place would be sink in a peninsula facing an open room, preferably with a comfortable chair height (deep) bar on the opposite side that can serve as the dining room most of the time, perhaps with a drop leaf table for when there are more than two people -- a table that could stay pushed against the wall most of the time with a wheeled cabinet beneath it and shallow shelving on the wall above it.

Can you change the front entry door and put the hinge on the other side?

Can you remove the wall between what is now kitchen and dressing room?

Can you move the kitchen, perhaps putting plumbing and wiring overhead or under the floor?

IF you can change the bathroom and dressing room, do seriously consider doing that.

Use the entire area from bathroom window to hall wall (right of entry now shown as dressing room) as BOTH bathroom and dressing room by putting the toilet and vanity and (preferably a walk in style) tub/shower combination -- all three along that right wall. Except for where you put a pocket door to the bath/dressing room in that wall between the bathroom and the rest of the apartment, create wall to wall floor to ceiling cabinets across from the toilet, vanity, tub/shower and let the wall be clothes storage and the longer (perhaps wider) space between the vanity and clothes storage be the dressing room -- no need to use up separate space for a dressing room.

On the living area side of the wall between living area and bath -- between apartment and ?hall? -- create more floor to ceiling wall to wall storage along what is now the dressing room/ hall wall, including within that built in space, a Murphy bed, with the "headboard" of the Murphy bed against the hall wall. Invest in a trestle drop leaf table for sitting beneath the window of what is now the kitchen when the Murphy bed is down and in use but when the Murphy bed is up, that bed space becomes dining space, with the bath convenient to the bedroom/dining space.

With the Murphy bed up and not in use, well chosen doors hiding the Murphy bed could make a good paneled look backdrop for a zoom call and the dining table, preferably with wheels, could double as a desk as needed -- with the desk facing a window. Work/zoom desk would not be stuck within in a tiny closet.

Recreate the kitchen in the corner LEFT of the entry door separated from the living/seating area by an angled island bar with the sink in a wide part in the angle facing the bay windows -- a bar island similar to the one in this plan (if you can resolve water supply and drain issues and wiring issues -- or consider a peninsula.:

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/842665780247883253/

You could create more floor to ceiling wall to wall storage along the left wall of the apartment between kitchen and exterior wall (exterior wall left of the bay window). Make all the living area floor to ceiling and wall to wall storage with "hidden" doors with shelves for baskets for use as drawers where needed -- no visible hardware (push to have it spring open) and it would appear to be more paneling and you'd need less furniture for clothes and other storage.

I was just wondering what is the view from that bay window? It seems like most people want to put some reading chairs there, but then you have your back to outside; if the view is pretty or interesting, I'd consider a round 42 inch pedestal table and make that the dining space.

I would use part of the dressing room to expand the bathroom to make the bathroom ADA-friendly as possible which included replacing the tub with a shower. Going online to look at assisted care facilities room plans might give you some ideas.

This is not an age-in-place accessible apartment. Why don't you move into it and let your parents have your apartment? You could ask to use their shower. I apologize for the snarky tone but I think you need to see things from an elderly and failing health point of view. You might consult the Eldercare office in your community for suggestions.

A co-op will think of the resale value of the studio and might resist needed physical changes that would make it elderly-accessible. But I love your caring for your parents.

To sum up the issues here: Daughter, out of love and concern, wants to provide safe space and privacy for visiting parents. Apt is across the corridor from hers,steps away. An ideal situation. COOP’s, nearly impossible places to get approved building changes, is also in NYC, as notorious, expensive, time consuming, and also almost impossible place to rehab/change anything but the furniture. Takes years and time is of essence here. Must do what can to improve situation within confines of existing walls etc. Cannot let the perfect get in the way of the good ways to make safe and comfortable for aging parents now. Add in parents or at least Mom is already experiencing physical decline. This apt can accommodate non structural changes to make that happen. Lots of suggestions above by posters.
The chairs in the alcove angled to enjoy the view best utilize the benefits of natural sunlight and is where they will spend most of their time except sleeping in comfy chairs.
As an aside, I hope parents have Original Medicare that is good for doctors anywhere in US versus Medicare Advantage plan which is network based and may limit acess to doctors and hospitals out of network except in emergencies. Worth checking out.

I took a break for a day and came back to so many fantastic suggestions and comments.

Total 180

We have a second bedroom in our apartment with ensuite bathroom, grab bars in smallest walk-iin shower I have ever seen. (Art deco original to the building.) I use it as an office and we sleep on the floor in there when my parents come to visit and I give them our bed. Maybe my parents stay in our second bedroom, which becomes a guest room, and we purchase the studio and use it as my office???? It doesn't give them privacy or independence of a separate space. Who knows? Just brainstorming. So nice the bathroom is so close.

Safety and Comfort in the Studio

I plan on removing the stove and having microwave and medium fridge. Minimal cooking will happen here.

Yes to chairs by the window for light and looking out at the decent enough view. Great reminder to have drawers to stash things in near the chair. Also by having chairs by a wall instead of floating them we get to have floor lamps.

Yes to arm bench in the dressing room and hadn't realized how useful it could be at the end of the table.

I had been thinking about square vs circle table and flipping factors. Sounds like square is the way to go.

Thanks for reminder that curtain divider is an unsafe terrible way to go!

Making Do

@Hustered - You are right on the money. Literally and figuratively. Perfection is the enemy of the good. We will do what is safe and reasonable with the space we have and then work from there. It is good to remember that nothing goes as planned and life is weird. The ideas I see for aging in place are often cover non-specific broad brush issues, large pocketbooks, and suburban living situations. I think the are the gold standard from which to pick and choose and apply to real life.

Realistically

Realistically, they will probably never live full-time here. They have a great apartment in another city where my brother lives. My brother could never afford to live in NYC so will shoulder the care with them where they are. I just want to give him a break. And, I think when it is just one of them left they will want to be here more, if healthy enough.

Very astute comment about being close to docs they are comfortable with. We'll have to wing it. How do snowbirds do it in Florida? I live in NYC with great docs and hospitals; telehealth is becoming more common thanks to the pandemic. And, this might just be a place they visit often scheduled around doc appointments.

If you want to maximize storage without adding a lot of furnishings, use three feet of the large living area against the left wall to put floor to ceiling wall to wall cabinets and closets -- from hall wall to exterior wall -- without visible hardware so the wall just appears to be a paneled wall.

If you cannot move the kitchen, you might consider making the wall between kitchen and dressing room a half wall peninsula to open up that space -- just use the bathroom (preferably lengthened from exterior wall to hall wall on the right side of the apartment ) is the dressing area as well .

I don't mind the small kitchen. I've found it safer when aging relatives of mine have spent less time in the kitchen anyway. Plus, we are in the midst of a ridiculously expensive kitchen rennovation in our own apartment and I have no desire to do it in the studio.

It is insane just how involved it is to do rennovations in a NYC pre-war building where everything must come up through a teeny-tiny elevator and all construction debris must come out the same way as well. Plus, there is old plumbing, old electric, and structural support beams in the strangest of locations. The walls in our building are concrete, even the interior walls. Moving them is no small task, even a partial removal. I'm guessing it would be $20 K just for the partial wall demo not including anyother work.

I'm not too concerned about storage. I think the one thing this place has going for it is decent closet space and the very long corridor in which a quite long dresser can be placed.

Mentioning that storage shelves / bins you buy and put together -easier than a dresser fully assembled.

Those CA Closet folks could install, and anyone can change shelves/ rods in future...

maybe a desk is part of their offering ! again, not a permanent fixture.

Great comments and ideas. In 2012, we purchased a house to accommodate my mom moving in with us and our 3 teenagers still at home. She had managed her own home (with 4 acres!) until age 92, and an accident that caused substantial injuries precipitated the move. She passed away at age 101 this past June. It was a blessing to have her with us these nearly 9 years. She never needed more than a walker and transport chair. I concur that you shouldn't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. May love and patience guide you!

With an older building you may have a cast iron tub. But if it is a composite materia,l doing a tub cutout is pretty simple. My mom lived in a senior apartment where this was done to all the units. Not as good as a full shower, but an improvement over a high step in tub. It is more difficult to do with cast iron or enameled steel, but is possible. Combined with strategically located grab bars and a comfort height toilet, you could make the bathroom much more elder friendly.

I think you have a great idea and the right mindset! Hope you can get the unit. Thanks for thinking of your brother as well as your parents.

"May love and patience guide you!" I tihnk I need to embroider this and hang it on my wall. I've got the love part down, the patience I'm still working on. So glad you got 9 years with your mom at home. She sounds incredible.

Good point about the tub, it is most certainly cast iron.

UPDATE

When posting this we were awaiting my mom's Alzheimer's testing results. Thank god they negative and we've since taken many other steps, some combination of which has vastly and quickly improved her cognition and mood. A move into our apartment is not pressing.

Still, your comments were incredibly useful, most especially regarding the far walk to the bathroom. If this purchase goes through and should my parents move here or visit for any length of time, we are rethinking of using the studio apartment as our own office / bedroom / escape hatch. We will give my parents our primary bed and bath in our apartment because of the short walk to the toilet in the night.

With great relief and much gratitute, thanks for your wonderful brainstorming!

Wonderful news about your mother!

That’s great news and I commend you for all your efforts at a very stressful time. Merry Christmas! What a gift!