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Etiquette Question for Those in Business or Education

2 years ago
last modified: 2 years ago

Our GD1, a college jr., is is exceptionally mature and gifted in her ability to converse with adults with both likable charm and intelligence. Consequently, she receives oppourtunities to attend, or even speak at school events, one fairly prestigious. I thought to advised her to ( maybe )use her best, and mostly unused, personal stationery, vs. a text or email for a quick thank you. She is unsure about it, as am I. Pretty sure it would be a little unexpected in todays world. A nice touch or just inappropriate? Or, simply typed on the usual business paper? Hmm, probably just that, but would appreciate your guidance. TIA

FYI; it:’s a large ivy, if that matters

Comments (14)

  • 2 years ago
    last modified: 2 years ago

    Not sure myself, tho I might be inclined to go with the hard copy, if I really wanted to make a good impression. However, my opinion might be outdated.

    Here's a link to AskAManager.org's take on thank you notes - tho this is addressing it in the business arena, it's still about professionalism:

    https://www.askamanager.org/2015/05/which-is-better-a-handwritten-thank-you-note-or-an-emailed-note.html

    martinca_gw sunset zone 24 thanked carolb_w_fl_coastal_9/10
  • 2 years ago

    My FDIL is very much up to speed on changing social behaviors, business and social. I know she would send an immediate email. When my other son was interviewing, I believe he also sent immediate follow-up emails. I think email over hard copy is especially significant with interviews where, by the time a handwritten note might be received, the job may have been already offered to someone. And then there is the question of whether mail service is as dependable as it used to be again. But a thank you that is not tied to an upcoming decision or as time sensitive could be handwritten -- and I think people always appreciate and remember a good handwritten note. I remember the poor ones too, but that's another story.

    martinca_gw sunset zone 24 thanked lascatx
  • 2 years ago

    Email is totally fine, but if she wants to send a hand-written thank you, that is also good. I find that sometimes my campus mail doesn't always make it to me right away.

    martinca_gw sunset zone 24 thanked gsciencechick
  • 2 years ago

    HERE;s our girl .Quite the journey getting here…and ty again to the sweet gw-houzz members and their helpful advice at the time. ❤️


  • 2 years ago

    Beautiful young woman!

    martinca_gw sunset zone 24 thanked Ida Claire
  • 2 years ago

    @martinca_gw sunset zone 24 You must be so very proud! And such a beauty!!

    martinca_gw sunset zone 24 thanked rubyclaire
  • 2 years ago
    last modified: 2 years ago

    I agree with the above comments. Email.

    Your GD presents a great strong demeanor. Her chair is perfectly fitted and it shows in every thought out detail. Very important.


    martinca_gw sunset zone 24 thanked eld6161
  • 2 years ago

    It better…danged blessings costa fortune. Sounds like you’ve some knowledge, eld.

  • 2 years ago

    Education/gov here - email is great :) a handwritten letter would be anomalous for me.

    Also, a speaker would more typically be the recipient of a thank you note/gift although it wouldn’t be a faux pas for her to send a thank you email anyway - but I hope she is getting thank-yous as well!

    martinca_gw sunset zone 24 thanked robo (z6a)
  • 2 years ago

    She looks like a boss. Love seeing strong and confident young women leading the way for the next generation.

    Agree about the email. Something like 'it was great to meet you, you're doing great things here, thanks for the opportunity and I look forward to our paths crossing soon.'

    Email is more likely to get a reply and perhaps build a relationship. She could then send along a related interesting article on the same email chain at some point. And she should link in with everyone she meets. But she probably already knows that.

    How wonderful for you to see her grow into such a smart, beautiful, and poised young woman.

    martinca_gw sunset zone 24 thanked gardener123
  • 2 years ago

    As stated in almost every response. Where as written cards are few and far between these days they are greatly admired and appreciated. Going the extra mile is never a bad idea.

    martinca_gw sunset zone 24 thanked arcy_gw
  • 2 years ago

    Not my personal view; I think handwritten notes are nice. However, I know some people find them negative due to sustainability issues (the paper, the fuel it takes to deliver - no I'm not kidding) and the receiver not knowing what to do with the letter: Read it then file? throw it away and feel guilty about it? Clutters your desk for weeks? This is all petty to me, but just to present another side.

  • 2 years ago

    Magda, I agree. This generation is all about sustainability, no/ low waste etc.