No duvet here. Too messy looking for my taste

I adore sleeping under my light weight duvet with a cover. I also prefer the casual cloud like appearance of it when made to bedspreads

I am often cold when in bed and like to pull the sheet around my neck to avoid any ” air pockets”. With a duvet, everytime DH moves, my sheet comes pulled away from my neck…..and suddenly the cold air comes straight to my neck! At home, we currently use flannel sheets, two blankets, a bedspread, and a quilt! Of course….I also wear a full -length nighgown with a turtle neck! We will be back in that bed tomorrow night!

I have used duvets for years, and love them. It is much easier to make the bed that way.

I find them sloppy looking I do however put a light weigh duvet under my coverlet on my bed in the winter it keeps the nice tailored look I lke but adds a bit of extra warmy. I think having to wash the duvet cover and get the filler back in the cover more hassle than anything.

I find a down duvet keeps me warm in the winter, but cool in the summer. I combine it with a feather filled topper under my fitted sheets and it's quite comfortable.

You'd have to pry my duvets and linen duvet covers out of my dead hands to get them away from me! I have a very comfy goose down duvet insert + a silk duvet insert. I like the comfy feeling of my goose duvet insert - but it's too hot for me to use in the late spring/summer/fall. The silk one is comfy - but not as fluffy - but I still like it.

I grew up using comforters - but started using a down duvet and duvet cover in college - and have never looked back!

I have approximately 15 linen duvet covers (and that's just for king sized bed - I have quite a few queen sized ones for my other bedrooms). My daughters make fun of my "obsession" with duvet covers and inserts (and pillows for that matter - if you stay over at my house, I basically have a pillow menu for you so you can select the type of pillow you like 😂).

I also have a goose down filled twin duvet insert + a twin silk duvet insert + I have five linen duvet covers for them - I use them when watching a movie downstairs on my sofa (and will sometimes share them with my SO - although he has a very nice faux fur double sided blanket that he prefers when he's cold). I also use them for my grandson when he spends the night.

I do not share my duvet with my SO - he has his own (one is folded at bottom of bed when bed is made in morning).

I also have several coverlets that use sometimes on my bed when I want it to look extra fancy.

YES - my linen closet is packed full of bedding! Luckily, it's fairly large!

I also HATE FLAT SHEETS. I do not like having my feet trapped. Whenever I sleep at a hotel, I immediately pull the bottom of the flat sheet out from being tucked under the end of the mattress.

FYI - I take one of my smaller duvets and a down pillow with me when I travel to someone's house. I updated my daughter's spare bedroom at her house as a surprise a couple years ago when I was babysitting my grandson for 4 days. All new bedding = two linen duvet covers + insert + a couple nice cotton fitted sheets - so, now I don't have to bring so many things over when I spend the night (i still bring my own pillow LOL). I also bought a new area rug + some art for the walls.

I knew that she would be happy that I redid the room as a surprise - for her birthday three years ago, she asked me to do her primary bedroom for her - and she loved everything that I selected for her (my two daughters grew up using duvets - and still love them + I converted two of my sisters + three nieces to duvets + 100% linen covers). I asked her some basic question re: what kind of look she wanted for her primary bedroom and then just went from there.

@grapefruit1_ar - if you don't share your duvet, you wouldn't ever have cold shoulders! I wrap up in mine (like a burrito) - I've tried sharing (fairly recently) - and did so for almost an entire week during the summer - but went straight back to using two duvets!

I grew up with I guess the precursor to the popularity of the duvet, a down comforter on top of a flat sheet but no sheet on top, like they do now at hotels.

But now I am allergic to down so I would have to switch to down alternative which in my experience hasn't seemed to work the same way.

So I really only experience duvet-like at a hotel which is generally a down alternative comforter wrapped in sheets, and although I generally start out cold and end up cold in the morning, I always wake up in a sweat in a hotel in the middle of the night.

And usually if I sleep with something like that completely pulled out, it ends up all around my neck and over my head with the rest of me from about arms down uncovered.

We actually sleep under separate blankets and I need an escape hatch for my feet to go in and out of. And this might sound really weird but once I started sleeping with a balaclava type thing on, I sleep much better. My face is uncovered but it covers the rest of my head and neck. A hat works too but doesn't stay on.

Not for several months. I decided to start using linen sheets as coverlets, so much easier on all counts.

Misread, in fact I use a down blanket with a sheet, the duvet is relieved from duty pending cold cold weather.

I loathe them. They never look neat regardless of how carefully they are arranged. And while I know others find them easy, I cannot imagine how removing the cover from the actual duvet (and untying ties or unbuttoning buttons that connect the two), washing it and then re-attaching them could be called easy. Give me a sheet set, blankets and a bedspread. I make my bed completely , even in winter with about nine or ten blankets, in perhaps 4-5 minutes. And it's neat with no wrinkles.

I used a coverlet and duvet + cover that I fold into thirds at the bottom of the bed.

I used to use a duvet but now I need to layer as I go from hot to cold throughout the night many times. Sheets and coverlet serves me better. Duvets are way too hot for my husband. Yes, they are easier to make the bed with but a bear to stuff the duvet into the cover after washing. Don't miss that at all.

I think I am going to buy a down alternative comforter. I bought one years ago for my son who has now grown up and with a family of his own. I remember having a favorable opinion of it.

I want something with some loft but I want to also be able to launder it easily .

My current washing machine is not of the same quality and function as my old one was and I am thinking that this is so much lighter in that regard.

I would just use it as is, without a cover.

That fluffy layer of air creates a nice warm bed.

I have one comforter from back around the late 80s and I have put it aside into the donate pile a couple of times but it is still here, and I am glad that it is. It is the teal color that was so popular at the time. I make up the bed and then fold it at the end of the bed just so that it can be pulled up easily. I just make my bed with a top sheet and a lightweight hand made quilt them pull up the comforter . I love it.

But I need the down alternative one for another bed.

@dani_m08 . can you share source for your silk duvet insert?

We use a fitted sheet, two twin duvets (one for each of us) and a nice knit blanket at the foot of the bed that can be pulled up to make it look neat. similar to Northern European bedding styles. i find putting a duvet inside the comforter only takes me about 2 minutes….its very easy.

I like a fluffy duvet 😅 i have a white box stitch quilt underneath and then to make the bed, I fold the duvet at the bottom of the bed so most of the bed is the crisp quilt

duvet is an easy wash which is nice for a Labrador who sneaks onto the bed

I dislike duvets and many commercial quilts/comforters.

Whatever I purchase has to wash easily without quilting materials getting bunched up. Duvets are just too sloppy, casual for my taste - feel unfinished, like they forgot to actually finish the quilt.

I prefer a well made/hand made quilt, but they are expensive and since my dogs get up on my bed I don't want anything that exensive. (I own a few because I live in Amish Country and have gotten good deals at auctions or inherited a quilt when someone in the famnily passes away).

I generally use light sheets and a coverlet in the summer and heavier flannel sheets, a blanket and a coverlet in the winter.

I really like the coverlets I got recently from cuddledown. My niece loves duvets and gets hers from cuddledown.

When I headed off to Europe in my 20’s and while in Germany thought I had gone to heaven when I experienced a down duvet and have never looked back (don’t use down though for a few reasons). I like a less streamlined look anyway and washing the covers (done often due to pets) is not cumbersome when zippered covers are used/find the right technique. In the warmer months, we switch over to coverlets and a layered feel. If we lived in a year round warm climate, this would be the choice.

Grapefruit, have you tried wearing a short sleeved, shorter length nightgown? Wearing all of the clothes that you currently are, it takes a long time for your body heat to actually warm the bed up.

When I was in junior high, my scout troop went platform tent camping with snow on the ground. Most all of us wore many layers in an attempt to stay/get warm. Not old Bette Mae! She was stark nekid in her sleepimng bag and woke up all toasty and rosey cheeked unlike the rest of us.

Just picked out a new quilt - wanted something to brighten my mood. Usually go a bit dark and moody for this time of year, but had several deaths in the family/friends in the past month and just feeling a bit down.

Still need to order some sheets (current flannel sheets are a dark Christmas red)

Would usually go for the green below - flexible - can go with different bedding, but I am really liking the raspberry pink. The picture alone is making me feel happy.

The blue and lilac are both more flexible than the Raspberry and pretty - just not sure I should care about flexiblity .

Anyone want to share an opinion?

Years ago I used a duvet. Now I use a fitted sheet, straight sheet, light fleece blanket and a matelasse cover.

It appears that there is about a 50/50 split on the topic of duvets. Apparently this is one more example of getting old and not liking to make changes. I just want to be cozy and have sheets ( definitely a TOP sheet, too ), blankets, and a bedspread. I also prefer that look.

Thank you for all of the input!

I grew up with sheets, blankets, and a bedspread. I went to college one year in Switzerland with a down ”pouf” (comforter) and cover, they were so comfy! Not readil available in the US at the time, certainly not on the budget of a student who had just been to Switzerland lol.

In a re-do of our bedroom once, I got the kind of comforter that calls for a cover. I paired it with blankets, until the time I had the blankets in the wash when it was bedtime, and we slept with just the comforter .(and cover). The blankets never did make it back on to the bed. But I always use a topsheet, so that I don’t have to wash the cover so often. And I was probably 60 when that happened, so you can change with age!

PS, we find the down comforter keeps us both at a comfortable temperature year round, even though DH sleeps hot and I’m cold. I do like having the comforter come down the sides a bit, not just on top, to ”keep the draft off my knees”.

HOW TO PUT A DUVET COVER ON THE EASY/FAST WAY:

First - putting a duvet cover on is easy - if you use the "burrito" (a.k.a., the "roll") method. There are many videos on this method - however, they have WAY too much talking + most make the end step look more complicated than it is.

1. Lay washed duvet cover on top of your bed - inside out (it should be washed/dried inside out - I store mine inside out in my linen closet).

2. If your duvet cover has ties, tie four corners of duvet insert (keeps duvet in place - some people don't use them - but I always do).

3. Starting at the top (closed) end of the duvet cover, roll duvet + duvet cover into a Swiss roll (or burrito - that's what people call it - but I think a Swiss roll is a more accurrate description).

4. Once the duvet/insert is all rolled up - open the ends of the bottom of duvet (I open the bottom of my duvet before folding it up and putting it away in linen closet - you should always wash it buttoned/zipped up - if not, other items in the washer/dryer tend to migrate into an open ended duvet cover).

5. Shove the rolled duvet/duvet cover through the open end - this will cause the duvet cover to be on the outside of the duvet insert + be right side out. Some of the videos spend time carefully showing you how to take the ends of the cover and how to pull them over the "roll" - this is unnecessary. It's really simple - you basically just shove the roll through the opened bottom of the duvet. You can watch a video if this doesn't make sense - but don't spend time being careful on this part - it's simple.

In the videos I watched (I was going to link one), no one ties the corners (even though will see that there are ties on the inside of each corner of the duvet cover). I think because the point of the videos are to show you how fast it works, and attaching the ties to the duvet actually takes more time than the entire rest of the process.

I changed a duvet cover last night (king sized) and use the stop watch on my phone to time it. It took me just under 6 1/2 minutes - that included taking the old duvet off the bed and removing the current cover + putting the new duvet cover on and placing it back on the bed.

However, it took me longer than it typically does because my SO washed the clean duvet - and he turned it right side out and buttoned the end back up -so, I had to unbutton it + turn it inside out before placing it on the top of the bed. Also, both the dirty an clean duvets had buttons at the end instead of a zipper - zippers are faster.

Also, my duvets all have eight ties instead of only the four ties at the corners - some came that way - the others I added the extra four ties (at the middle of each of the four sides). It just keeps the duvet insert in place regardless of how much I toss and turn during the night (or throw it on and off if when I'm running hot/cold).

I also have to add a flat sheet when I change the bed because my SO still wants a flat sheet even though I do not (I leave my side untucked at the bottom and kind of just put it over when I get into bed).

@Jennifer Hogan - I would select the green sheets - but since you want something that "brightens your mood" - I think I'd order the raspberry ones also. They would make me smile also.

The lilac ones would be my last choice. If they were a more saturated purple color - maybe I'd like them more.

Some people don't have the flexibility to use a quilt like that - or raspberry (pink) sheets because of their husband/partner/SO/bf/etc. I'm lucky because my SO is fine with pink (he has many golf shirts that have some type of pink on them). Plus, I change the color scheme on the bed fairly often.

I recently purchased a dusty pink linen duvet set + linen sheets that are striped dusty pink/white (not stark white).

I typically don't buy linen sheets (pillowcases - yes - but not fitted linen sheets) because I like cool/crisp percale 100% cotton sheets (although some of my sets aren't percale because my SO prefers different ones - we have quite a few Peacock Alley sets - they've worked better for us than Frette or Sferra).

Go for the raspberry!!!

@maggieq - my king size (actually, I believe it's a California king because I was concerned about it looking flat in my linen duvet cover) is from THXSILK - 6A summer duvet. Right now, they are $299 for Cal king and $269 for regular king.

When I purchased my twin sized one to use when laying on the sofa, I decided to try one from Amazon. They don't have the exact brand that I purchased in stock anymore - however, I did purchase a XL king from another company - for my sister (along with a linen duvet cover + bed cushions that people use after surgery when they need to sleep more upright) after her double mastectomy. The one I purchased for her looks IDENTICAL to the twin one I purchased (same exact stitching/weight of silk listed for each size/tag (except for the brand at the top of the tag - same font and wording)/the protective package it was folded up inside (exactly the same photo and wording - except for the brand).

My understanding (from a silk duvet insert "expert" = extensive research about them) is that even the more expensive silk duvet inserts are made in China - and as long as they are Mulberry silk (or 6A - which is the best) with 100% cotton cover - they will be very similar (if not identical to each other.

They still have a few of the brand I purchased for my sister in an XL king (90x108) on Amazon - for $117.99 (I purchased my XL king for $100 - it was listed as $168 but there was a lightening deal on it at the time). It came with the extra loops to attach the linen duvet cover (8 places = all four corners + the midpoint of each side of duvet insert). It works fine in king size linen duvet cover (I probably didn't need to spend the $ ordering a larger one). Amazon used to have quite a few lower priced mulberry silk duvets when I purchased mine ($150 or so) - however, they don't seem to have as many now.

I also tested both my twin + the one for my sister to make sure that silk was used as the filling (you can access the filling and do a burn test on a strand). My more expensive one feels like my less expensive twin one from Amazon when I use them.

FYI - even though this is listed as an "all season" - it has the same weight of silk filling as my summer weight on from THXSILK (I compared the twin sizes since they were the same dimensions).

The twin and the above XL King both have boxes sewn into the cover (these are always used when the duvet is made with lower quality Tussah silk because the strands are shorter - they use this stitching to help prevent the shorter strands of silk from bunching up together - they are sometimes used with higher 6A grade silk). Tussah silk is a beige color - the silk in both of the duvets from Amazon looked (white)/smelled (no smell really) identical to the silk in my THXSILK duvet. I asked my expert friend - and she said all three were made with 6A Mulberry silk.

I have found the same one as above on Ebay for $89 (new condition).

Much longer/detailed answer than you would have ever imagined when you asked me your question - but I wanted to explain my experience with a known brand vs. random Amazon brands.

Pulled the trigger - new bright and bold bedding with raspberry sheets on their way!

I live alone with my two dogs - they don't care what color sheets I buy.

Jennifer - I'm so glad you did the raspberry ones! Can't wait to see your new bedding!!

I much prefer a cotton down comforter with a linen duvet cover. I still use top sheets though. I have fabric allergies, so I only use cotton, linen, and silk for all of my bedding (or clothing). I cannot tolerate heavy/weighted blankets, that’s the main reason why I prefer the down comforter. I did have to learn to get used to the more casual look of both linen, and a puffy comforter as they don’t smooth out so easily. When I want things to look more polished I tend to fold my duvet down to the bottom third of the bed and allow my sheets to show. I also drape a velvety throw across the corner of the bed... my dog likes to lay on that part. (The throw is not usually a natural fabric, but I really only use it for an accent color and for the dog.) I wash my sheets (cotton) and pillow cases (silk) at least weekly, my linen duvet cover at least once every two weeks. The throw gets washed weekly as well. I don’t really find it difficult to put the down comforter back into the duvet. My bed is a standard King sized platform bed. I will admit that I changed up my bedroom color scheme because of my dog. I used to only have white sheets... now they are charcoal grey because that’s the color of my dog and I got tired of seeing his fur in between wash days. LOL!

My dog on my bed with his throw blanket. :)

Well. I have a quilt ( ancient/ugly/but perfect) totally hidden beneath a Garnet Hill white "dream quilt" which I use for clients all the time as it IS the best I've found, washes beautifully and NEVER has a wrinkle and doesn't shrink. I've a BIG HUGELY fluffy duvet, folded at the foot in its cover which I never pull up unless sick as dog. It's there for looks ! LL Bean 400 ct cool/crispy percale sheets and none are better as they come out of the dryer nearly wrinkle free.

Three euro shams, four sleep pillows all down, HIDDEN BEHIND shams and DONE. The bed always looks good, neat as a pin and I never tuck a top sheet at the foot. I toss the duvet over the foot board every night or I can't see over it and it's super FLUFF, to the tv.

With the abundance of bedding available? Have what YOU like. Matters not what someone else may love.

JAN MOYER, thank you for the recommendation of the LL Bean cotton percale sheets. I haven’t been thrilled with any of the cotton percale sheets I’ve bought in years. Seems they hardly make them like they used to, but I do find 400 ct thread to be very comfortable.

I have tried them ALL.....!!

EVERY CLIENT I HAVE / HAVE PUT THEM ON THEIR BEDS?I GET A CALL...Loooove these sheeeeets! WHAT ARE THESE SHEETS!!?

PS.. The worst? The very highly "rated online" ......Thomas Lee. wrinkles like crazy, puckers om sheet top and cases. Threw them out. Save a flat for a drop cloth.

Don't ask me on sateen. Loathe it, Too clingy and drapey and too hot.

I also loathe sateen, too hot AND it slips around too much on the mattress I think. I won’t even entertain anything with polyester. I’ve been to other people’s homes as a guest where they have flannel, microfiber, or cotton/polyester sheets and I’m miserable due to fabric allergies. (Pair it with a polyester comforter and I’d rather strip the bed and sleep in my coat.) Thankfully, I don’t travel often, and now when I do it mostly to see my adult children and they know my issues... as most of them have the same issues. LOL!

I ordered my sheets from Cuddledown. I wanted flannel because I keep my heat low (65 at night 68 during the day) and I have found that their coverlets are a nice quality. Have withstood my dogs and washing nicely.

I have 2 bigger dogs (50 and 70 lbs) that sleep with me and are on the younger side <7 and are high energy breeds (German Shorthaired Pointer who is on crack, Austrailan Shepherd).

The past 2 years have been a lot of trial and error attempting to find bedding that didn't get torn up and holes in it from the dog zoomies - my bed is at the far end of the house - so they land on the bed and turn and run through the house to the kitchen).

I purchased two quilts from MACY's that fell apart the first time I washed them.

I ordered several sets of sheets that were torn in a few weeks.

Sheets ordered from LLBean - no issues.

Sheets ordered from KOHLS Vera Wang - no issues except they wrinkle terribly.

Coverlets from Cuddledown - no issues

Coverlets from J Queen New York - use on my sofa - no issues.

Hopefully the sheets and quilt I ordered will be quality bedding and not disappoint.

I have been considering a LINEN duvet cover (current cover is cotton), but concerned about the wrinkle factor. Pottery Barn bedding departments show such an inviting bed display, but I don’t plan to steam iron out the wrinkles daily. If you own linen, do the wrinkles bother you?