There is a whole lot to unpack in your post. Let's see if we can help. From helping family members with Parkinson's and suffering from major back issues myself, I understand your limitations. I've downsized and moved family into assisted living.

1. How big is your home? How many bedrooms? When you say Senior Living home, will you be going into an apartment - how big? It is helpful to know what exactly what to keep, and how much storage space you will have before you start decluttering. Change you attitude from 'what do I want to get rid of' to 'what do I want to keep' and then dispose of all the rest.

2. Do you need help deciding what to keep? Do you need somone to coach you through this process? If so, you pay the going rate in your area for a professional organizer. (Where do you live?) If you don't need hand holding but just need someone to physically sort, move, and get rid of belongings, you just need to hire an able bodied person to help you and it will be much less expensive.

3. Explain to us where you live, what the homes are like in your area, what they sell for and who buys them. Are there other homes on your street in the same interior condition as yours? What did they sell for and how long are they on the market?

It is often much more sensible to declutter your home and sell it for a lower price and let the buyer put in new everything. You will NEVER make your money back installing new kitchen, bathrooms, etc. Sell your home for less to a young couple who doesn't have as much money and is eager to DIY as their budget allows.

You are a caregiver. You have mobility issues. You do not need to be shlepping around town with cabinet door samples, looking at tiles, flooring sample boards, paint chips, acessing appliances, negotiating with contractors. It is a TON of work.

Do as little to your house as you can get away with to put it on the market. Everything sells when it is priced right.

4. Add some pictures of your current space. We can give you and idea of what to do to stage it to put it on the market. Show us your bathrooms, your kitchen. Take a pic of your carpet.

IMO get help with the declutter and packing and leave the rest for the new owner . Carpet does not sell homes BTW it is usally now is the first thing ripped out so save the money . Decluttering and packing are what you need to get done first then a good cleaning if needed . 2 very different things not usually done by one person or company. THis service unfortulatel is not cheap but for sure needed if you are dwonsizing. I do agree think of what you NEED to live in the new place and get rid of the rest . MY Mom had some really nice furniture so she got a dealer to buy it all when she sold a big house and moved into a condo she had fun getting a new look. I think you need to check out what is available in your are for the chores you need done and maybe contact senior help places they might have info.

Kendrah's comments are excellent.

Do you have a house cleaner now? Although it may seem backwards, it can be easier to start with regularly scheduled house cleaning. When you have two big jobs, decluttering and cleaning, only decluttering requires you to make your own decisions. Cleaning can be delegated to someone else. As the clutter gets removed over the course of weeks, the cleaners can dust and vacuum the newly freed up spaces faster and more thoroughly.

Ask your friends and neighbors for referrals to house cleaners. In my high cost of living area, an experienced house cleaner is paid about $150 for three or four hours of work every two weeks or once a month. Cleaners from franchises such as Merry Maids may cost more.

Your real estate agent will have a list of cleaners. They can also recommend organizers who specialize in helping seniors prepare to move.

All excellent advice above but want to highlight what Kendra’s said about decluttering. If you know the place you are moving to has one bedroom that fits a queen bed, then right there you know the set from the guest room stays and your giant king set gets donated or sold. Etc etc. You keep one set of China. Will you miss your fancy set? Great, toss the cheap set and use the fancy set EVERY DAY.

I moved from a 5 bedroom house to a 2 bedroom NYC apartment. I had a lot of family things I cherished but had to get rid of. What helped was:

1. Getting rid of a set of dishes but keeping the creamer and sugar. I still had a piece of my grandfather in keeping those. (He had great taste in dishes and everything else. He was OG metrosexual!)

2. Donating. It is a wonderful feeling knowing that someone will benefit from what you are not keeping.

3. Take a picture of things you love so you can look back on them fondly!

4. When you go to tour the senior living facility - open all of the closets and drawer and take pictures. When you are purging - because really you not decluttering you are purging - look at those pics as a reminder of how much you can realistically take with you.

5. Make stacks of what you are going to keep and when the stack starts to look too big, you know you have to remove items and start purging more!