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Reply to: Ioth for comfort and the ability to work in other spaces . hate to tell you this but most people buy furniture for comfort and most sectionals have exactly what you have 2 people comfy all the rest stuck in the dreaded center seat of what is really just a sofa . Not to mention sectionals are very site specific and most designers suggest sofa 2 chairs for the best both for comfort and the ability to change things around or to move .

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Reply to: I am not sure that people associate a drop of price while a house is continually on the market with something negative, I think they associate it with the price being too high to attract a buyer at that particular time frame. What does get attention, I think, is if the house is off the market because of a pending offer and then comes back on the market at a lower price. I think people associate that with something like "ah, the offer fell through because there is something wrong with the house, so they had to price it lower". (Whether this is true or not). As for the wildly fluctuating Zestimate, that may have as much to do with comps or other variables as it does anything else. I periodically check the estimates on my house and it has fluctuated quite a bit, during some periods. And different companies have different estimates, sometimes quite a bit different from each other. Unfortunately I think with the whole staging industry, houses are turned into literal Potemkin Villages, and people have their heads turned by the surface cosmetics, and even the way the staging decor is done. You may have done a lot of the stuff that isn't fun, and pretty, but that's the kind of stuff that a lot of people don't notice, they just assume somehow that of course all those things are all right.

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Reply to: @Anna Devane I'd expect that consideration to go both ways which in most cases, it doesn't. If a neighbour cuts off my access to clean air every hour of the day to the point where I can't open a window unless I'm standing next to it, then that's not exactly neighbourly and I don't think anyone should automatically tolerate it. There's being tolerant of other lifestyles; then there's nuisance. People have a right to breathe clean air, especially in their home - it's pretty basic. That should take precedent over what is really a leisure activity. Whilst everyone has a right to quiet enjoyment including smokers - I'm still responsible for nuisance coming out of my boundaries. I wouldn't expect my neighbours to be assailed by fumes hour after hour. There's some big double standards with smoking and law in practice but it's not exactly legal just archaically considered 'reasonable use' and I'd say it is - up to maybe a few cigarettes/day... but it never is and the air just becomes colonized. I'm not saying things should go off down a totalitarian rabbit hole where no one dare light a barbeque in the summer but the concessions afforded to chronic smokers typically make a mockery of those who have to live next to them. I feel it's an addiction that replaces empathy and infects most users with a impenetrable cognitive dissonance to the problems caused by it.

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Reply to: I am a pretty open minded person. My grandfather, born in 1911, attended a gay "wedding," some time in the '30s. Homosexuality has always been considered normal/inherent in my Catholic family. On the subject of s$x before marriage, my great grandfather told my mother to never buy a pair of shoes without trying them on first. And yes, absolutely, there were no double standards in my family regarding that issue. All that said, at some point s&x creates children and children need some stability. Polyamory does not seem like a brilliant way of bringing up children- Just ask Mohammad bin Salman's siblings. As my grandmother always said, we are never on to something new. So, no, this is not on a continum with understanding LGBTQ issues, it is not the same as accepting cohabitation instead of marriage. Just because we drew the line in the wrong place in the past, it does not follow we can never draw any lines. And while this specific question did not raise the question of children, it is hard to take children out of considering issues around s&x in general since one thing inevitably leads to another.

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