It is certainly true that for the last several years many design magazines and shows have primarily shown white cabinets. That is changing, and I am seeing a lot more stained / stained mixed with painted cabinets. There will always be both, but the design world can focus on one more than the other. One has to remember a lot of that is marketing 101 - make the person feel their present stuff is dated so they will buy new stuff.
However, I also understand trying to make a kitchen reflect your style. Painting cabinets is a good way to give new life to worn cabinets - extend the life while one saves for new cabinets. However, painting over previously finished cabinets is not as durable as factory painted cabinets. Wood moves with changes in temp and humidity, which can cause hairline cracks in the paint at the joints. This bothers some more than others. This is why factory painted white cabinets are either MDF or a wood and MDF combo - it is more stable to temp changes.
I can't tell from the pics if your cabinets are oak or maple. If oak, the texture of the grain of the wood will show through the paint - not the color of the grain, just the texture. This is why oak is not a "paint grade" wood. Again, this bothers some and not others.
I think it important to have all the info before you make a decision. Problems with painted over previously finished cabinets are much more likely with a DIY job, especially an inexperienced DIY person or with a busy active kitchen - kids helping or even older cooks who are not especially careful.
If you want to decrease the wood a little you could remove the over the range microwave and replace with a stainless hood. You could remove the cabinet and micro and do a T style hood. You might remove the wood shelf over the window and the glass cabinet over the peninsula.
I am neutral on appliances. I dislike black, but I have a neighbor who prefers it, so to each their own:)
Since most of the trim is already white, I would paint the crown molding, but not above the cabinets - that should stay wood.
I have a smaller kitchen, but with oak cabinets and found new counters / sink / backsplash refreshed it nicely - but I do have a vintage / cottage style which can work well with older cabinets - mine are older than yours. Your cabinets go up to the ceiling and have no arch so that is really nice.
My kitchen:
https://www.houzz.com/photos/my-pics-work-in-progress-phvw-vp~110720042
I also have a "wood kitchens" idea book which includes some refreshed wood kitchens.
This is the type of thing I am seeing in new design pics, less white, more wood - though still see white too. Often the stained wood is mixed with a lot of white or ivory - something I tried to do in my own kitchen:
Not my kitchen- newer design pics:
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