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SUGARBAKERS

Brilliant article and very true from our experiences with clients. Renovating and moving house is never easy for a relationship. As designers we often have to apply lots of psychology on our clients and keep the peace between the two. Working in their homes and very private spaces (bedroom) often puts us in a spot between the clients. And we have to learn and accept that we should not choose sides, but remain professional and true to the project at hand.

Our advice to any couple would be -

a, remain respectful to your partner's wishes and dreams,

b, be open minded re that one item or style you simply don't want to have in the house,

c, do not make a decision within the same day, sleep on it,

d, you don't have to go for the real thing, get the overall look right,

e, don't be inpatient, don't settle for shoddy workmanship,

f, don't be to proud and not ask for advice,

g, keep in mind, you have to live with what you choose, don't chance it

If you both can agree on following these pointers, there is no reason why you shouldn't build your dream home together.

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Terri Reid

Great article! After living first for one year in our home, my wife and I came up with a plan of what we wanted to remodel and when. We have both been on Houzz and gotten lots of ideas of what we wanted. Luckily, we had the same tastes for this first remodel. We decided to have the kitchen redone, all the floors in the living areas and the entire inside of our 4br/3bath house painted. At the time of this comment, waiting on the kitchen guys to come in and put the grout on our backsplash and install our new dishwasher, faucet, stove top and oven. Once that is done today, we will do a walk thru and if all is well, that job is done. The porcelain tile has been laid in all the living areas, and the painter is starting on the 3rd room today. There has been no disagreement on cabinet styles, flooring, paint colors, etc. but lots of stress over our kitchen being in the laundry room and having 3 large dogs bark continuously at the workers from other rooms. We also stayed in a hotel for a week while they were installing the tile flooring. We have found ourselves being a bit short with each other over the stress. But all in all, this has been a great experience and we worked well together picking out all the options. Next remodel with be the three bathrooms, hope it continues to work for us.

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Dory Clemens
Great article! I'd add that partnering with a design build firm know for their smooth process, successful projects, and hundreds of happy, repeat clients is also a great way to minimize stress and conflict.
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