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tsudhonimh
And ... get a prenuptial agreement before you marry (or a non-marital property settlement even before you sell your place to move into his/hers)

If the relationship can't survive the cold-blooded calculating discussions it takes for a good and fair relationship contract, it's not going to last.

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Sharonable ... "Even when he is ready to let something go, one of his adult kids wants to keep it but they have no room at their place so it ends up not going anywhere."

When they say they want it ... if at all possible, deliver it to them immediately and let them figure out where to put it. If it's valuable enough to them, they'll get rid of something in their house to make room for it. Or they will rent a storage unit for it.

If they say "I don't have room for it yet", give them a deadline and say "I understand. I'll drop it off __ insert date no more than a couple of months away __. that will give you time to make room for it." And smile.

But if they claim it as theirs, it's theirs.
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tsudhonimh that is such awesome advice! However, I will say that many of the couples I've helped have been battling how to tell a parent that they DON'T want/need the heirloom furniture in their home but feel obligated to keep it (you aren't obligated). However, your creative advice allows for the kids to say, "Oh, well, we don't have room," to which sharonable can say, "I totally understand. We'll consign it!" :)
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Sonomamama Cruz

The best thing my guy and I did when we first started living together did was to open a separate bank account for the household expenses. We decided that we would each contribute a certain percentage of our pay such that everything would be covered. Saves having to figure out utilities, groceries each time and so on.

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