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Apartment 46 for the Home
judithahall and ploppiedb, it may sound totally cliche but it's sometimes impossible to see the way to blend your tastes when you're actually one of the two people trying to make it work. The benefit of having an outside professional weigh in, even just for a consult, is that a pro isn't intimately invested like you and your partner are. We don't live the history that you both do and therefore, are able to call it like we see it without worrying about insinuating that grandma's heirloom is just flippin' ugly. From the outside, a pro can look at your styles and intuitively suggest ways in which a home can mirror aspects of both in a way you'll both love.

I understand the logic behind just throwing in the towel and letting one partner do whatever the heck they want, but for me personally, I'd hate it too much to bear. My environment has a direct and important impact on my well-being every day and I need to have something I love, and that represents the way I see myself living, in my space. When you feel stuck, or feel like it's hopeless, it's time to call in a pro. Believe me, I've faced many unbelieving partners ("what the hell can a designer do that we can't do?!") and turned them into happy believers. :)
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Is it me or does it appear men don't like change at home as much as the women, and women tend to go for more colorful landscapes? Not always for sure but mostly. Maybe women spend more time at home and 'live with' their surroundings longer? Maybe its the women that browse these beautiful homes online or in magazines and it gets them thinking. I'm a woman and I think some of this applies to me. I've suffered the frustration of having what I thought was a great idea only to have a partner with a totally different idea, different color, different design, cluttered not spacial. But, what I have found, is adding another perspective, different eyes and ideas, that if you can combine the two, can make something extra special, different and original.
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bridgetonowhere it's a fact that women and men see and perceive things differently. As it is in our genetic code to be the nurturers and nesters, we are driven to create and recreate surroundings that please us. Men are very logical, practical, and believe in functionality. Women are more aesthetically driven. Not every woman and every man fits that description, but most do. Knowing that these are inherent differences can sometimes make it feel less personal when a mate doesn't "get" your vision.
   

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