Winter Tablescape Dining Room, New York
Rikki Snyder © 2012 Houzz
What Houzz contributors are saying:
Assess conditions. This is the first thing you need to do. Do you have extra responsibilities or challenges this season? Are you moving? Is anyone in your family ill? Honestly look at your life circumstances and consider how you may need to adjust your traditions. Whether your situation is something wonderful like a new baby or hard like a job loss, the desire to have everything be normal, especially for the sake of your children, is powerful, but you may be adding undue and unnecessary pressure. "Not this year" could be a helpful phrase to say to yourself and your loved ones.Decide what you are not. I know all the life coaches tell us we're supposed to frame things in the positive — for example, "I want to be neat and organized!" rather than "I don't want to be a slob" — but sometimes you just need to grab yourself by the shoulders and get seriously clear about things. Deciding who and what you are not is a good place to start. In my case, I realized some time ago I am not a confectioner. It took many years of trying before I came to this conclusion. And I know I'm not alone. Every December, if you eavesdrop on just about any conversation where two or more mothers are gathered, odds are one of them is talking about the massive candy-making operation she's running. Some of these ladies barely cook, but there they are churning out hundreds of sweets. I am clear I am not a confectioner. I am also not a seamstress, interior decorator, lighting specialist nor caterer and will make my holiday plans and commitments accordingly. What are you not?