- I must brace myself for what I now have to write down & let me tell you, it is excruciating, my hope is the the reward is going to be advice that can help..

I moved in the midst of december & spent a entire weekend devoted to get my clematis/fern/peony/phloxes collection with me.

Everything but the clematis has bounced back, knowing the clemmies sometimes take a sleep year I am not too alarmed albeit disapointed, The 7 clemmies that did take off, 5 of were in full bud up until Sunday night when my, godforgive me- super ditzy DUMB frail old aunt upstairs pulls it ALL OUT INSISTING IT WAS ALL CHOKERS.

Now dont take me wrong, she is nice old lady but I have wished every living malady on her since early yesterday morning when I traipsed out to do my daily training in to the rose hedge. it is ALL GONEall vines are torn out of the ground & upon closer inspection I even see the bloody crown up on the surface, with bits of loose roots floating around in the mulch.

Now let me tell you before you decide I am a complete psycho.

I took sweet old auntie BY THE WRIST the 3rd & last time I showed her what hubby & I had been up to the last 2 weekends when ever single plant was hedged OFF WITH GREEN 2FT FENCE as to make sure the dog stays out of the vine tangle.

There are 2, TWO tags, one that came from the nursery & 1 large white handwritten in place right in front the root clump.

I am bawling my head off, again , in fact I havent stopped since monday morning, I am taking this so hard I can barely get out of the bed let alone walk the dog. I worked so hard for this

To make matters worse, about a month and a half ago she tossed out my japanese 15 BLOODY YEARS OLD extremely slowgrowing hydrangea. It was the only plant that went straight in the ground back in decemeber & was already up & coming, she says it was DEAD.

I only got buds on it last year.. BOOOOO!!!!!!

sniffle,

Now I went out & got a hold of her & no matter what as of course I cant really start yelling at her, she insist it was just chokers- meaning morning glory & weeds, SOB!

really, I am so sorry for any offence taken but is really just me who can see the magnitude of this?

well my husband does, as he is going without dinner & he is not a gardener one bit..

I am really struggling with writing this as it is killing me all over, I cant set my foot out in the back with out falling apart completely, there were over 100 buds on the white Huldine, the climbing rose hedge is light pink doubles, The Piluu Had a bud count of almost 50 pinwheel striped little loved flower buds, the multiblue that I have had a grand total of 4 buds last year came up with over 20 of them. , Mind you, this is only the first blooming cycle of the season.. I have had each & every one of them for OVER 6 years now, dragging them from rental apartment to rental, allowing them to amass, seeing to them every day for the last 5 years.

Anybody crying with me yet?

As it settles I start seething, what else am I supposed to do?

WHY do I have to beg people to pay attention to what I am asking them NOT TO DO?

I cant help but thinking there is some passive aggressive message in there but I dont think so, we get along great although she's hubby aunt, she is a very sweet old lady, when she wants to, & I guess she is the complete opposite of that when she wants to...

Golly,

No matter what, I am stumped & need some substantial advice,

Can I dig them up & start over in a bed far away from her, ~which sadly means I never am going to see them bloom from my kitchen..

HOW do I deal with people like this?

I am thinking i should simply go & tear out the damn sunflowers that are growing willy nilly due to bird seeders to make things even, maybe she wont understand my swedish accent but surely shell get that.

well, you see, that does not work either for I am simply not that person, I don't like harming anything living certainly not the poor sunflowers.

To make matters worse, we had agreed upon the beds I could use for planting, it was all sanctioned by HER already. It is her house I would not dream of going against her wishes in any regard.

One things for certain, I must adress this NOW, once it for all, it can never happen again & let me tel you this for a fact, a peony is not going to stand for that treatment.

I think I need to find a valium or such..

COWMANURE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Please, I need to be talked down for I am on a mental ledge & my husband just dont get it, a plant is a plant is a plant for him & in fact he sticks me 10$, starts shooing me, there there, go off & buy yourself a new plant my dear.

The dummy do not get the 5 years of devoted that just went down the toilet, not to mention they are all CHALK HILL Clemmies..

10$.. Pha!

I told him I am deducting 500$ off next ,months rent & he looked like he was about to faint.

( he himself has a long rich history of killing my most precious plants & although I was upset, I never gave him too hard of a time about it, like the cactus I inherited, a 50 year old cactus he tears OFF the wall by swinging the dogleash rel carelessly, well He did go in to Gethsemane & looked at the prices, Over 400 $.. his defence? well I never paid for it in the first place did I?

GGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.

I must stop beofre I go beserk..

I put my faith on you, dear fellow gardeners, can ye hear my pain?

KLK