Create a cavity in the wall( you will have to do some work with the studs) so the DW can go back farther. remember, it has water and electrical connections-be sure to allow for them.

Thanks so much for the great advice, I'll pass it along to our contractor. I'm also wondering if some brands are just shorter from front to back, someone told me that Bosch was but I'm not so sure.
Martha

The Europeans are, Bosch, Miele, Asko.

I "thought" that the Monogram took a custom panel and was able to disappear -- I was told by saleman yesterday that it still sticks out some. The above dishwashers are 2" shorter front to back to allow them to truly disappear with a panel.

I am still going to check other sources on the Monogram info since I'm not sure it is totally accurate.