I've read a few and the best by far was "What Your Contractor Can't Tell You: The Essential Guide to Building and Renovating" written by Amy Johnston. It's available on Amazon for about $15.

Here are a couple of them that are unusual while being quite helpful.

"Build It Right" -- Myron E. Ferguson

Gives numerous examples of how homes are commonly built wrong with clear explanations of why. Catching and stopping just one of his examples will more than pay for the book.

"Houses Are Designed By Geniuses & Built By Gorillas" -- Bob Johnson

An insiders view of the home building industry and how to deal with its players. Contains a lot of valuable information.

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All of these books are understandably incomplete and the authors are often forced to reach beyond their expertise so you should buy several books to offset these problems.

In selecting books it is helpful to first decide whether you will be designing the house yourself or with assistance and who will be the GC. To cover all the possibilities would require too many books. I probably own 100 books about designing and building single family homes but would be hard pressed to guess which would be useful to you. The more general they are the more unreliable they are because of incomplete or misleading information. It's a far more difficult and complex subject than people generally realize.

Amy Johnson's book used to be called "What the 'Experts' May Not Tell You About Building or Renovating Your Home". I don't know if it changed from '04 to '08. I have the old one. The book is very good but it is full of incomplete statements like "let your building breathe a bit". To understand what that means and how to achieve it would require reading a book on moisture control in buildings since the subject involves consideration of many different building envelopes, climates, and HVAC systems. Amy is a construction manager, not a building designer but few authors can resist straying beyond their expertise when the subject is as common as the homes we live in. IMHO The most frequent cause of post occupancy homeowner pain is the addition of a building design element without understanding the effect of it on other building elements and systems.