Depending on what exactly you mean by white-washed, you may want to look at Swedish vintage or antique places. In our breakfast room, we have something very similar to the table below, which we bought not too far from you, in the Berkshires. Source for Swedish antiques, both old and new (custom)

Their stuff is not inexpensive nor can I say it's even a good value (I have no expertise in such things) but I would think it can't be more than having a cabinetmaker make you a table. If you go the cabinetmaker route, I would want him to paint it with a similar finish as your cabinets, and then "distress" it to get the feel of whitewash and see the brushstrokes. There is a lot of truly awful, totally overwrought distressing out there so I'd make sure you use someone who specializes in it.

Last thought, Shaker workshop, also local to you, sells very nice tables and table kits. You could start with one of those and find someone to whitewash (they are sold unfinished). We have one of their cherry tables and love it.

MtnRdRedux, thank you so much for the many wonderful ideas! It is very helpful to have additional, local resources. I don't think we want distressed; I was thinking more of a white washed stain with the wood grain showing through: I figured chips would show less that way than with paint. Our cabinet maker's price for the table is pretty reasonable; my main concern is that he has never white washed something before. I will definitely look into the places you recommended.

I welcome any other suggestions too!

I can't recall the term for it, but the same person who does distressing would do whitewashing, in my experience. Sort of specialty wood finishes. I think of it as sort of on a continuum. E.g., we wanted our cabinets to show paint brush strokes; the technique to do that was called distressing.

Have you considered Amish? Most Amish stores offer a lot of choices in wood (even reclaimed), style and stains. Often times you can get custom is what you are looking for isn't already available. Reclaimed sounds beautiful. Here is one site I found www.amishtables.com with several trestle table styles.

More great ideas! So it sounds as if white washing might almost be a variation on distressing. Maybe I should have my cabinet guy make the table and then find a "finisher" to white wash it? I will continue to follow up on these sites and ideas. Thank you so much!

Something you may want to look at for your white-wash is Liming Wax. I bought a tin by Briwax, and had fun with it last year when my sister asked me to give a 'Swedish Look' to an old maple mirror. I did paint this mirror first with various shades of blue and grey chalk paints, and finished it off with the liming wax. The piece of wood with the hole in it is a sample finish that she brought me, but wanted the mirror frame slightly darker.

You'll see in this link the various effect that you can get, designed on how much grain the wood that's used has. A little goes a long way, too.

Liming wax on various wood surfaces