I'd go custom with a local furniture craftsman myself. When you factor in what will most likely be significant shipping and handling charges, and not being able to see the table in person beforehand, custom and local make a lot of sense to me.

*edited to add, by local, I mean up to an hour or so away.

Congrats on your new home, I'm a big fan of the farmhouse look and the casual comfort it always seems to offer. Have you considered having a farmtable made or even diying it yourself? I know that sounds daughting but it really isn't and the results can be quite stunning. You'll have a table that's unique and beautiful, customized to your family's needs and will hold up through the test of time. The bonus is it can be a lot less expensive too. If you want a more traditional style you can buy the pretty legs premade from places like Habitat for Humanity, a local lumber yard or even one of the big box stores. Buy the chairs separately or even incorporate a bench.

Here are some samples I found on Pinterest, if you search for DiY Farmhouse tables, there were tons with how to directions and the options were limitless:

Traditional white bottom but you could go with a pretty soft gray or blue instead.

Home built with a matching bench

I'd look into an Amish furniture source. We had ours made--it took about 12 weeks but we were able to pick the exact table we wanted--legs, edge, length, width, number of leaves, chairs, and provide our own fabric for the back--everything was our choice.

When you have a table made, you also get to decide how many leaves self-store and how many don't. For example, our table self-stores 4 leaves. The two we normally have in use have matching skirts. The two that we normally keep in the table do not have skirts--that allows us to store all 4 leaves if we need to.

If you're worried about how it will hold up, I suggest oak over cherry, though--we have more scratches than we're happy about.

Here are a few you can make yourself if you're handy.

http://www.shanty-2-chic.com/2016/08/diy-pottery-barn-inspired-dining-table-for-100.html

http://www.ana-white.com/2013/09/plans/4x4-truss-beam-table

Crate and Barrel. They have a variety of big tables online so you can get an idea of what style you like. I wish I had room for some of them.

They have oval and round and rectangular, with and without drop leaves, in a variety of woods and leg styles.

You should go into a big CB showroom if you have one near you. Some of the furniture looks a lot better in person. Look at reviews online before you buy. And get the credit card if you want 10% rewards back.

I also look at Pier 1 and World Market online because I am on a budget. But I didn't see anything I wanted to look at in person.

You might see if Arhaus has anything.

Thank you all for the replies.

bethohio3 I would LOVE to see pictures of your table!

lukkiirish Those are some great options, but I can't see us pulling it off. I like the farmhouse look, but one that is slightly more finished then some of the reclaimed looks out there. That's why I'm not sure RH is the one for us. I don't want a highly lacquered table, but not a overly unfinished table either.

There is a local craftsman that makes gorgeous pieces I am considering. It's double the cost of the Restoration Hardware tables though, so that's a consideration.

I will look at Crate and Barrel...last time I looked, I didn't see any that could comfortably accommodate 14 people.

It's double the cost of the Restoration Hardware tables though, so that's a consideration.

The quality will be more than double, and it will likely last you a lifetime : ) .

MY CL frequently has tables like this that either come with lots of insert leaves or you could get them made. This table is currently on Ebay, starting at 5.00 (but in LA)

Well, the one I have is a used cheap table I've had for 30 something years and couldn't bear to part with. I tried several new tables and returned them all due to their terrible quality. (They just don't make furniture now the way they used to.) So instead I just kept and refinished my old solid wood one. As a thought, you might want to try some of the furniture consignment stores, you might find something that hits the spot and just needs some refinishing.

Some friends of ours bought a large table and benches from Crate & Barrel and it wasn't the best choice. Both the table and benches are long enough that they should have fifth legs in the middles to prevent sagging, but don't. The finish is wearing out very quickly (they have littles and use it every day.). I think if they had a do-over, they'd go with Amish made. The Amish company here uses a catalyzed varnish on their table tops, which makes them extremely durable, even for everyday use. I.e. Even wet glasses left on the table will not cause rings.