I don't like any of those styles with a farmhouse table. Think "farmhouse windsor" would be lots better....or a slat back chair. and with farmhouse table...not sure I like upholstered at all....how about a windsor with arms for each end?
and I suggest you think 3 or 4 times about a bench....no one likes to sit on a bench if the others have a chair with a back....and no one likes the middle seat on a bench

Thanks for the suggestions!

Definitely going with a bench for function. We have 2 children with lots of neighborhood kids stopping by at all times. Its the best option for that situation. The adults will sit in the chairs.