That is 5' from the people across the table. To me that doesn't promote easy, warm dinner conversation.

i agree, I'd get an 8' rectangle. It will take up less space but still seat 8 people. Then you have room to put a buffet on the wall opposite the kitchen.

Im not sure a 8 foot table will fit in my space with my bar and the door opening on the left is to a bedroom. You think?

How many people do you seat daily? I'm assuming 8 is for when you have guests? I'd get an expandable table, one that seats your family comfortably, then can be made larger for special occasions. Probably no worries about that bedroom door being less accessible during a party.

Also think about a round table, which expands to an oval. I find it's easier to squeeze an extra person or two around a round/oval table than either a square or rectangle.