You have many beautiful features that are not being enhanced by those shades. I would remove those pronto and use plain white curtains. I would also add hardware to your cabinets. Your cabinets are beautiful so I would not paint them. You will need to find ways to counteract the fact that they are gray. Look for ways/places to add colorful wall art.

That's a lot of gray. If you love gray, great. If not (or you love it but not quite that much) there are lots of ways to add/replace with other colors, but the right path will depend on your budget. What's your budget range for the updates?

You could go with 1) add some rugs, curtains, different barstools, and accessories to bring in color ($), 2) Do all of #1 plus replace the backsplash ($$), 3) Do all of the #2 and either paint the cabinets or replace the counters ($$$), or 4) do all of #3 including both cabinets and counters ($$$$+). If you really don't like gray or cool tones, you could also consider refinishing the floors with a less gray tone, of they're real wood.

get new pendant lights and chandelier for the table. The kitchen looks like a good reference to layer more decorative things . I'd coordinate the pendants and table fitting with some clear glass in the fixtures that reflects and plays with light. Then something else for shades on windows and French doors. You could reupholster the bar stools if you so desire and then of course pursue hardware for cabinets. You might enlist a decorator as that is the type of enhancements that will play it all up. the kitchen surfaces are pleasing yet interesting, not jarring or overwhelming. I'd leave it alone and spend money on the other. I like the kitchen shading/colors !

I'd paint that big corner pantry the same gray as the cabinets so it will not be so prominent. You need pulls for your cabinets, and a nice colorful rug would help. I'd keep the plain shades - your backsplash is busy enough. It will look great!

so I want to add Roman Shades and drapes but I m having trouble with fabric selection, any ideas?

I recognize those temporary paper shades! lol I have some in my own home currently, while I decide on window treatments.

I think woven wood shades would look really nice, and echo your floors. Also, is that a fabric sample hanging by the French door? I think it looks great, and would tie in your colors.

depends on you: vibrant plum works here....neutral, as in off white or crisp white....lively coral …..I would avoid gray or greige...if a neutral- white or off white..... or go for color....you can do a raw silk[polyester] w textured look......country French cotton esp if you want color.......wide stripe: plum/cream. Waverly /Robert Allen online for searching. there are others as well. Gray is all over the place these days....you have a nice tasteful amt of it already: but maybe a gray and plum stripe or botanical scene w grays/ blues if you feel inclined. If you have a center in your town w design service they can show you how much can be done with the style and then the fabric options, and some other elements for the room also I bet. Your space just needs "nudges" and can be really special. See if you have a workable budget for these"extras" .

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yes the fabric is one I've owned for a while, hung just see

I'm wanting to also reupholster the bar stools and dining chairs

You need more lighting. Do you have under cabinet lighting? Are your walls gray? Lighter walls would help. Down or more open light over your breakfast table all would help. Chrome hardware would help. The more light and reflective light the better. Add decorative mirrors in breakfast area. Remove things that don’t offer more light. Start there.

I have under cabinet lighting and walls are not grey they are light off white