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Help! Please! Having trouble picking out new kitchen backsplash!

5 years ago
last modified: 5 years ago

I’m hoping I can get some help in picking out a backsplash. I’m so stressed out because I thought I had a tile picked out, but then my tile guy told me it might be too “busy”. Now, My husband just wants the kitchen done ASAP and I’m holding things up because I can’t decide on a backsplash.

With The kitchen renovation, we have very bright white cabinets (sea salt), polished Carrara marble countertops (On the fairly light side) and stainless steel appliances, brushed nickel cabinet pulls, brushed nickel pendant lights for over the island. I was convinced that I wanted to go with a Carrara herringbone 1x3 tile, but my tile guy told me that I might think it’s a bit too busy. So, now I’m on the hunt for a new backsplash. I’m trying to find something that will flow well together wary the Bianca Carrara countertops and not be too much of a contrast, but the kitchen is very white so I need a light contrast-if that makes sense.

I’m now looking at the Nabi Arctic Blue Hexagon tiles from Tilebar. In some of their pics, these tiles seem to look very good with the very white kitchens and it’s not “too dramatic”. Of course, I could go with the Nabi White Hexagon tiles, but I think that would be too much white. I’m just thinking of resale value too and would like to pick something that could appeal to everyone in case we have to sell the house in a few years. That’s why I also don’t want to do anything too “trendy”.

im going to post a few pics so you can see what I’ve been looking at put up against the counter. I greatly appreciate any help. I’m at my wits end. Thank you!














Comments (63)

  • 5 years ago

    Hi Michael! We used Medallion cabinets in the Madison Flat panel style in Sea Salt, which is basically a very bright white. Thank you for the kind words! I’m always doubting myself on my kitchen choices. Have a wonderful day!

  • 5 years ago

    I'm so glad you picked the tile you did! I think some of your original choices (with veining) would have competed with your counters. What you chose will complement your lovely counters and kitchen. Congrats!

    Christine Lyons thanked chicagoans
  • 5 years ago

    Yippee! I didn't want to influence you, but it was my favorite!

    Christine Lyons thanked rbhirano
  • 5 years ago

    I’m so nervous! They are coming to put in the tiles tomorrow and then will be finishing up on Wednesday with the grout. I really hope it looks ok! Fingers crossed! I just hope it’s not “too much”. Once it is completed and our hood is up, I will post some pics. Thank you so very much to everyone for their kind words and suggestions. They are greatly appreciated. This is my first time doing anything like this and I had to do it completely on my own. Hoping I got it right! Hope everyone has a wonderful week!

  • 5 years ago

    Congratulations Christine on your decision. That tile is beautiful and the color is absolutely gorgeous. Double kudos to you for not caving in to your tile guy’s or husband’s insistence on a quick decision. Can’t wait to see it completed.

  • 5 years ago

    Thank you so much for the kind words! I doubt myself often and second guess myself so much. I had so much pressure, but I tried to stick with my gut feeling. Hoping it pays off. Have a beautiful evening!😊

  • 5 years ago

    Good for you Christine! I’m living (ok, barely existing) in a house I hate, in a neighborhood I hate, in a state I hate because I didn’t stand up for myself and take the time. I’m hoping you end up with a home you love and thrive in. Best to you.

  • 5 years ago

    That tile you’ve chosen is beautiful; the color is perfect with your cabinets.

  • 5 years ago

    Thank you so much again! Etta, I’m
    So sorry to hear that. I’m
    Hoping that you can move to somewhere that makes you happy soon. Much peace and blessings.🤞🙏

  • 5 years ago

    What colors did you paint your walls? That what I’m struggling with as it opens into my living room

  • 5 years ago

    Perfect choice

  • 5 years ago

    You made a great choice, i think it looks beautiful and was going to vote for that one!

  • 5 years ago

    Thank you Christine. Apologies that I made this so personal. I’ve been struggling a long time and there is some light soon ... I just hate to see someone else struggle with “simple” things like being heard; being able to voice an opinion; or just want to think about a decision. I do apologize if I’m reading too much into your situation. I’m clearly seeing this from my perspective. I continue to wish you the best.

  • 5 years ago

    We are painting the walls Mindful Gray which is a Sherwin Williams color, but we are using Benjamin Moore so they will prepare their version for us. It’s a nice cool gray that looks very good with a crisp white trim. Hope this helps!

  • 5 years ago

    Hello to everyone that has helped me in the past with your comments and suggestions. I did end up going with the Nabi Blue Hexagon tiles for my backsplash. I’m going to post some pics here of the almost completed kitchen. I’m very upset, however, because I don’t think I really like the way that the Nabi Blue Hexagon tiles go with the Carrara marble countertops. It seems like it is maybe “too much” of a contrast. I just don’t feel like it flows the way I wanted it too. I e also had a few friends tell me honestly that they don’t care for the tiles. My husband is so upset with me, because I spent A LOT on these tiles and then of course a lot to have them installed and I really think I should have gone with something lighter and maybe a bit smaller. I have a big credit with Wayfair so I’m looking for some possible new tiles, but I don’t think I can afford to do it right now and my husband will be so angry with me. This has been such a long process as it is. I just want it “right”. Could I please ask for some honest feedback regarding the Nabi Blue Hexagon Tiles and what you think might look better? I’m thinking I should have done something lighter to keep the kitchen very white. Thank you in advance for your help. Just really down about how this turned out. I’ve been doing my best. Thank you! Here are some pics. I do have to say that for whatever reason, the blue does look quite a bit darker on the phone pics than in person.

  • 5 years ago

    Here are some pics taken today.

  • 5 years ago

    A few more..

  • 5 years ago

    Last two. Thank you so much in advance. I’m so confused. :(

  • 5 years ago

    Absolutely perfect! Well done. Enjoy your new kitchen.

  • 5 years ago

    Thank you so much! So, you think the blue hexagon tiles go well with the Carrara? Thank you again so much!

  • 5 years ago
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    Wow. I think it's beautiful and the shape is so elegant. I'm genuinely surprised you've gotten negative feedback. The tone goes so well with the silvery gray accents you've got going on - including your gorgeous counters. It's a perfect frame for them.

    I looked at the website and their photo is lighter; your hood photo looks to be closest. I particularly love that area - just stunning.



    You're just not used to such a big visual change AND you're hyperfocused on that one area, whereas I saw the whole kitchen in the first couple photos and thought it was one of the nicest I've seen posted here.


    So often on Houzz, I see the focus on counter and backsplash, even though the plane the backsplash is viewed in is CABINETS and backsplash. This tile suits the mood and colors of the kitchen in its entirety. You did great!

  • 5 years ago

    Thank you so much barncatz! I was a little surprised by the negative comments as well. They were just being honest, I know they meant no harm, but I’m someone that decided guesses everything I do. I guess you could say I don’t have a lot of faith in myself and I’m always afraid of making the “wrong” decisions. I truly appreciate your feedback. And, you made a good point-the pic with the hood is closest to how it really looks, just still a bit of a lighter blue than in the phone pics. Thank you! Have a beautiful weekend!

  • 5 years ago

    **Sorry, meant to write: “I’m someone that second guesses everything I do.”

  • 5 years ago

    Looks great — don’t second guess yourself. Enjoy your beautiful kitchen.

  • 5 years ago

    Your kitchen is stunning. You did well. Enjoy it now.

  • 5 years ago

    Beautiful! Great choices!

  • 5 years ago

    This is an absolutely beautiful kitchen. Love everything about it. The backslash tule is gorgeous and looks great with everything in my opinion.

  • 5 years ago

    Oh wow! This is gorgeous, Christine. You did an excellent job and I ain’t lying. Perhaps you’re only focusing only on the tile as being too much. But just look at the whole picture - your kitchen is stunning! Well done to you! Enjoy that beautiful space.

  • 5 years ago
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    finally someone had the guts to use the Nabi Arctic Blue tiles! (the hex or the Harlequin shape) It looks great. so much better than white subway tiles.

    in case anyone wants to see a sample of the Harlequin shape, here's a sample.



  • 5 years ago

    I love the Harlequin too! Even the guy installing my backsplash didn’t seem to like it. He kept saying-“It’s really different.” He wouldn’t say he liked it. I’m hoping it’s just because it’s something they are not used to. I just thought that since everyone does Subway tiles, I would try to be different. I know it’s not a perfect match to the Carrara white, but I thought the blue would pick up the dark gray/blue veining in the stone. Love the Harlequin look! Very beautiful! Thank you!

  • 5 years ago

    you picked well. enjoy it.

    5-8 years from now, change it out if you want. not a big deal.

  • 5 years ago

    I really like what you selected!! Great choice!💙💙

  • 5 years ago

    Tell us about the patterned ceiling! I like it. :)

  • 5 years ago

    Thank you Beth! I think that it’s just different because everyone is used to the subway tile look. It certainly does make me doubt myself though. I didn’t expect so much negativity-even from the guy installing it. He told me the subway tiles are classic and will never go out of style. I guess that is a good point. When I saw the Nabi Blue Hexagon online I thought it was beautiful. I wanted something that could look classical, but maybe I was off a bit on this one. As you said, I can always change it in a few years, plus styles change too. Imagine if the Nabi Blue Hexagon tiles became popular?😊

  • 5 years ago

    your tile guy is boring and unimaginative. be thankful you don't have to sleep with him ;)

  • 5 years ago
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    I LOVE the backsplash (and the entire kitchen).


    I had wallpaper installed in our half bath recently. I adore the wallpaper. I've had serious regrets since it was installed. It just felt too bold and overwhelming in my space. My daughter is home for summer break and we spent about $50 in accessories this weekend. I love it now! The wallpaper is predominately orange (which I love) and a more subtle blue, green, tan, gray tones. Previously, I had accessories which emphasized the orange and really made it pop - I love the orange. But in a half bath it was just too much. My daughter wanted to emphasize the more subtle colors in the wallpaper with the new accessories. It really made the bolder orange recede. Now it looks like I expected it to. We installed wallpaper in November and I just couldn't get it right. I had been toying with the idea of removing the wallpaper. It took my daughter an hour to fuss with it and change the look.


    So, that's my long way of saying, it is hard to pull everything together and to make the room match your vision. During the last 6 months, I think both my "vision" changed and my daughter had a fresh perspective. I truly think your entire kitchen, especially the backsplash, is stunning. It may just take some fussing around with the accessories to bring it closer to your vision. Good luck! I really hope you grow to love it soon.

  • 5 years ago

    Looks great!!

  • 5 years ago

    Thank you so much everyone! I think I just need to give it a chance. It’s something very new and different. For the person that asked about the ceiling-believe it or not, it’s just the classic “swirl” ceiling. I live in New England and it used to be a very popular way to finish the ceilings. Personally, I prefer the flat ceilings, but these came with the house and are literally in every room. I’ve grown to like them now. Thank you! :)

  • 5 years ago

    I love your tiles! I went with the boring subway tiles—too safe. I wish I had done something different. Oh well, I do still love my new kitchen.

  • 5 years ago

    Elegant kitchen. The tiles compliment your countertops. They aren’t boring, safe tiles. They are gorgeous. But it is how everything looks together that makes it elegant. And sophisticated. So....when your “friends” tell you they don’t like it, just think of those two words: Elegant and Sophisticated. 😉

  • 5 years ago

    The tile was a great choice. The color is serene, yet the tile is visually interesting. It fits in beautifully with your kitchen.

  • 5 years ago

    It’s a beautiful kitchen! Lovely color backsplash, too.

  • 5 years ago

    Beautiful kitchen!

  • 5 years ago

    I think the kitchen is beautiful, and love the tile! Thankfully there is variety in life, so boring otherwise. I am like you and second guess myself but am learning to take feedback with a grain of salt. I personally don't love everyone else's style so why should I think everyone will love mine? Be boldly you, don't apologize for what you love. My tile guy had a different opinion on my tile and grout choice but I love it so that's what counts! Please don't think about changing the beautiful tile that leaves your kitchen anything but "vanilla" It is classy, unique and looks timeless to me at the same time. Everything in your space works well together in my opinion.

  • 4 years ago

    Hello again!! I just wanted to update my pics now that I have some new accessories and its been about five months. Im definitely starrting to really like the Nabi Blue Hexagon tiles for my Back Splash. its interesting though that i had a painter in the kitchen earlier this week and he was saying that he kikes the kitchen. i asked him if he likes the Back Splash and he said he thought it was ”a bit dated“!?! Now, I’m doubting mysejf again. I don’t see how its ”dated” looking? Ugh, i worked so hard on this kitchen. I just want it to look beautiful and to flow. What do you guys think now that I have accesories up? Does the backsplash look good with the cabinets? Thank you so very much for all of your help. Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!😊





  • 4 years ago

    Don't listen to the painter. Although pickets have been around, they were never trendy. Yours are Quite different.

    You have a stunning kitchen.

  • 4 years ago

    Thank you so much. I was just really perplexed when he said it ”looks dated”. I thought the Hexagon tiles were a bit more modern. Have a beautiful weekend!

  • 4 years ago

    I love your backsplash! And, not always but usually, contractors don’t have design skills. Houzzers are better judges of design. Love, love the color and no, it is NOT dated!

  • 4 years ago

    Thank you so much! I always doubt myself and second guess my decisions. i had always wanted a beautiful kitchen. we saved up for quite some time. i just wanted to make sure I got it ”right”. Have a wonderful night!