We got quartz Storm Calacatta countertop and the same backsplash and off-white cabinets in white painted walls, trim and doors in open concept kitchen-dining.

It depends on the overall look you are going for. Can you post pictures? It will be very bright.

It really depends on the space, type of lighting it receives and the overall design of the house

In the house we built in FL, I used BM Chantilly Lace for all cabinets, doors, trim and crown. It is a bright white, but works in the space. The other whites I tested looked dirty in the north facing kitchen with large windows.

In my previous house I used BM Simply White for doors, trim/crown and some cabinets. The Chantilly Lace would have been too white for that house.

Since you have your doors and trim in the SW Extra White, you should have a good idea how it looks in your space. If the cabinet color is going to be different, it needs to be a bigger difference, so it doesn't look like you were trying to match the white, but messed up and ordered the wrong white.

I prefer when white kitchen cabinets are the same color as a home's white moulding and doors. I think you're on the right track with Extra White.

One example of a kitchen with Extra White (except for the island). I believe the counters are Mysterio by Vicostone.

https://www.thelilypadcottage.com/fall-kitchen-accessories/