I never understand why others come to the rescue if an OP has no issue with facts. I know sometimes I am blunt but sometimes it is a must so we don't get bogged down in everyone's feelings and actaully try to help.

And your comments are very well appreciated, Patricia.

I'll just tie my hands to my chair for a couple hours? :) There's an excellent chance I could type something now, and find my comment isn't whatever the heck it is supposed to be?!

They need to be the controlling helicopter mommy to their own children, until those children go no contact. Not to strangers online.

I'm not sure this thread is active.

I will add this. Gen pop contributors are not a protected class, and the Pro contributor is not a demon class to be freely and rudely admonished with venomous spew from an all too conveniently mysterious screen name.

Fine to have a strong opinion, tastes vary , solutions to problems will vary!

The Houzz site began ( 2006 ) with a concept: Take the contributed work from all areas of design, the pro's within those disciplines, and make it easy for a homeowner to search for inspiration.

The key word is "contributed" . As a gen pop, as another pro? Put YOUR contribution into any thread. Spare the personal and implied denigration of anyone else's opinion or solution.

This pro to the you. know. who. you are. bullies residing here? I'm done with taking it sitting down, in some misguided belief that the Pro designation should afford anyone minus same designation, the freedom/opportunity to disparage intent in a comment, or the validity of the advice gleaned from decades of experience . Done.

I have yet to find a site of any type that doesn't have some controversy. Houzz is no different.

Ditto.^^ I am all for controversy, expression of opinion, love a good veer too!. When it approaches bully / slandering? Hard no.

The other point as Diana noted in her thread? Is irritation........and pick the level of irritation based on frequency.severity

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"admonishing others that their comments are unwarranted and inappropriate, and that they should "stay in their lane," to the point of harassment. .....

Unless a comment is abusive, profane, belittling, or the like, there's really no need for Houzz members to be the final arbiter of others' comments."

And yet you made this policing post. The irony. Many people on this app like to dish it out and then can’t remotely handle it when it comes back their way.

Yes. It is you who made the post. No one has suggested otherwise.

Nope.

@Norwood Architects … lol , yes, even on my local ”Neighborhood” app, the latest controversy was an issue regarding a delivery person ringing/not ringing the doorbell upon arrival. That issue generated dozens of posts, including disparaging other’s pizza choices.

@k Laurence hopefully you also got some pizza recommendations out of it!

@WestCoast Hopeful …. so funny, yes, I did actually. i didn’t dare wade into the discussion but one poster recommended one I’m going to try.

Old saying - Different strokes for different folks.

Everyone's taste is different, everyone sees a space differently and will make their suggestions accordingly.

There is no need for disparaging comments or nastiness. The only "negative" comment I would ever make or agree with is one correcting someone who is posting wrong information ( we often see bathrooms ripped apart in the comments because of waterproofing issues, code compliance issues, etc ) .

I may not agree with you or like your particular aesthetic but I certainly would not attack you for it! Geez - people come here looking for help ( mostly ). Not fight club! LOL

Personally , I like seeing what everyone has to say, I learn some new stuff and new ways to look at things so I am all for everyone's opinions!

@WestCoast Hopeful, Norwood Architects ….. thought you might like to hear the latest re pizza delivery on my Neighborhood app. NOW they’re complaining about the time of delivery & one person is berating everyone for eating pizza, “it’s not healthy”, blah, blah, FYI, I’ve silenced any further notifications re comments on the subject. Actually, I’m deleting the app!

Is it on Next Door? Thats wild in my hood. I had to delete the app and Im a big fan of complaining and policing lol. Pretty sure this thread was targeted at folks like me. But I also don’t care and don’t see any of you on my street like I do from the Next Door app! If people think it’s bad here they should venture to X or Reddit for a reality check

Yes, it’s on Next Door, I mispoke . It’s been deleted, unbelievable There’s probably 3 dozen + comments re pizza delivery, “their pizza is garbage”, & it goes on ….lol.

“Different strokes for different folks” is originally attributed to Muhammad Ali. He used the phrase in reference to his boxing. So, it actually was ”fight club”.

Soon thereafter, the phrase was very much popularized and immortalized in a song- by Sylvester Stewart (aka Sly Stone).

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bsxM-zuKdmQ

(ETA: The phrase was already in the vernacular- prior to these notable mentions.)