I am by no means an expert, but apart from training good crotch angles I let my trees do what they wanted the first year. My reasoning was more leaves to feed a bigger root system. Don't let it fruit either, debud it so it puts the energy into vegetatative (branching, roots) growth. Once you get the "skeleton" in the shape you want and strong enough to support the fruit, then let it fruit.

alright sounds simple enough to me. thanks for the advice, i appreciate it.

Yes, it's simple and you're most welcome. Just look at books or online pruning instructions and photos of well-shaped trees so you get an eye for good branch angles and distribution on the trunk. With multiple cultivar grafts you may have to watch that one doesn't overtake the others (if it's more vigorous). You can take it down a notch in vigor by gently tying the vigorous branch to a more oblique angle while the slower, weaker branches are allowed/encouraged to grow more parallel to the trunk (straight up) without sacrificing crotch angle of course. And then when they are balanced, reposition the branches to be more symmetrical, and keep them that way by pruning several times a year. All this can be found in a good book like Growing Fruit (Royal Horticultural Society) or many others. There is alot online on espalier which may not be what you are doing but you can still learn alot about manipulating the growth of the tree by reading about it. Good luck!