Kathy, see link.
You must be doing soft solder??
I always use silver solder, have done stainless... I guess the color of silver is not what you're after.
Konrad

Here is a link that might be useful: Soldering

Thank you Konrad !

Ok ..... I'll probably get deleted for showing you the website of the soldering I want to copy ... but you can see how this is what I'm looking for .....
http://designsbydeann.com/ She solders lead to stainless ..... it's mystery to me .

Hm..this looks nice and prices are right...for the work that goes in!

Have you tried following instructions on the website?...it should be possible but then, you don't know what grade stainless she is using, this could make a difference too.
I would think that she is using the most common stainless out there, the best stainless material is the 316, all
stainless in the 3 series like 316, 304 and so on are none magnetic stainless, [check with magnet].
Allot of stainless are in the 4 series like 410 or 416...these are slightly magnetic, over time they can rost a little and I think it would solder better.
I have silver soldered both.
You can always ask her, what type of stainless it is...then follow instruction on website.
Konrad

I don't know if it was silver solder, but I used to have a roll of solder touted to work with dissimilar metals. You could do a broader search and see, but maybe silver solder is the way to go.

Could you use an epoxy adhesive for just that part? Something like JB weld for example?