Not oak, but I have Honey Maple stained woodwork (here with natural cherry furniture) and gray-blue walls in MBR. This is BM's Horizon.

Sorry for the boxes in corner and lampshades on table - but here you see the window trim and more furniture.

DS has the same color walls with blue carpet, pine furniture. I like the contrast b/t warm and cool, most of my house is green or blue walls.

Bathroom is blue, one strip of gray (Light Pewter) b/t the hamper cubby and the tub, where hooks are. Sorry I don't have a pic of that wall with baseboard though. Here's the light blue (White Satin) wall with window trim.

Well that was flattering - Thanks!

I do think that grey can work w/ golden oak trim but sample, sample, sample! Grey can be cool or it can be warmed up w/ brown undertones like BM Revere Pewter (which is what I have in our LR) It reads very warm but still grey. One wall often looks stone grey.

I have oak trim but it is stained quite dark and I noticed that when I went cool grey the orange in it was quite pronunced. Here's one pic of a dark cool grey. Liked it but it got a bit to 'goth' loking fr me.

To all the grey's I've loved before - who've travelled in and out my door......

So here are some of my pics of greys I've tried (I have other shades and pics but they aren't loaded):

Cool:

Warm:

LR (BM Revere Pewter): Please note that these ARE NoT the finished pics - this was my sample. I love this color and am just tweaking the room as small finishing touches arrive from E-bay. The accent colors are navy blue, cream and tan:

SW Martha Stewart Thunderhead. When the men at work saw this color they LoVED it! How often does a man comment on wall color let alone more than 1?!

Light warm grey - SW MS Sandpiper w/ Garden Clogs ceiling:

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Old pics of my MBR done in SW Requisite Gray. I should have left a good thing alne! This gray seemed to be right on the bridge of cool/warm. The darker colors on the strip def. had brown undertones. Such a great color especially w/ blue or purple accents. Really, really love this color especially w/ dried Nikko Blue hydrangea flowers. Would def. recommend sampling this color! When I went lighter on the same strip I thought it went very pinky (magenta is added to it) and I didn't like it at all:

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Not sure if my nightstand is oak or pine but has an orangish tone:

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W/ gold accents:

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And SW Backdrop in alcove (same strip as RG)ignore the mess of the dresser painting.:

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No pictures because I'm still in the planning stage, but I'm planning to use Ellen Kennon's Gustavian Grey in my bedroom. I have 90 year old orange-y yellow pine flooring.

Her paints are full spectrum and the Gustavian Grey is a pale gray to green to blue. There are examples of it in the Gallery.

Here is a link that might be useful: Ellen Kennon paint

Jane - I agree, white would be a nice option here. Not sure dh would go for pink. But who knows!

ajsmamma - I would say our woodwork is close to the trim on your windows. Nice pics. I do like the contrast in your rooms. Very pretty. Pics sure do help!

ttodd - I'm sure the hydrenga pic is one that I have stuck in my inspiration log in my head. I even have a similar headboard. But my trim is definitely much lighter. I use SW paints and have a fandeck - the requisite gray is very pretty. And I love the thunderhead, too. My room is VERY cozy (small!) so I don't want to go too dark....

graywings - That looks like a beautiful color. Good luck with your project and post pics when you're done! :)

hmmm... Thanks for all of the input so far! My mind is racing...

Our MBR is 12x13 w/ a king sized bed. Tons of light - almost blinding.

This morning's Washington Post magazine does an extensive review of a house reno, and a gorgeous gray bedroom with oak trim (not too orangey). The palette was said to be ashes, smog and fog. There were all kinds of gray in the bedding, draperies, rug and wall. Accent was yellow-gold.

I have to make this lamp work in our room.
Was originally planning sage green walls.

This is our headboard:

My steal of a deal bedding:

Oak going on in the room:

Right now I'm feeling a sage green is safer and easier. My oak is pretty orange.

I should have added... Any thoughts on what direction to go in would be appreciated! We're hoping to get started in the next few weeks. Will need paint and new carpet.
The lamp must be useable in the room.

I'm not a big fan of gray, but y'all have some gorgeous gray rooms!

Here's a good inspiration pic~Swedish decorating. ;o)

Here is a link that might be useful: gray walls

Anyone think gray is def NOT the way to go? If it's a no, then any suggestions? I can return the bedding.

The lamp, headboard, and all of the oak! must stay. I'd need to buy bedding, artwork, flooring, wt,... it's almost a blank slate.

I think the right green would work with the bedding too. Either green or gray, cool colors can work with oak if you tend to the blue side rather than yellow. I'll try to post pics of DS's room in daylight tomorrow - the light from his baseball ceiling fan is awful LOL. But his pine furniture is a little more the color of your oak than my cherry furniture is, his trim is the same Honey Maple stained pine.

Go gray, it's neutral!

Some pics of DS's room (pardon the tween boy mess - I managed to avoid taking pics of the unmade bed).

Horizon paint color - I forgot, his trim isn't stained, just beeswax and boiled linseed oil but it's somewhere b/t a "natural" pine and honey.

Bunk beds (ignore the box spring underside) in sunlight

bookcase - maybe darker pine than bed plus a shadow but I did use flash

Desk cubby (dark) and edge of closet trim (beeswax) - I think the flash washed out the side of the closet a little though

And, what you were waiting for - he has an oak dresser! This is next to a window, so the paint is under an east-facing window, no light but flash.

Finally, here's BM Light Pewter with no stain, poly-only baseboard in bathroom. The colors are pretty true in this pic (a little bit of White Satin showing around the corner to the tub).

ajsmama - oh my gosh, thank you for taking the time to post pics again. I appreciate it!

Maybe I should start a new post with a pic of the lamp, oak, and headboard - and see what others come up with!
The lamp was a wedding gift and I've always loved it, but it's been moved around lots of time because it doesn't really match my decor. So I'm trying to make it work here as the main 'colorful' item in the room.