when will it stop?

17 years ago

I let my heart take over and my brain stopped. To make a long story short, I now have 2 extra cats, strays. One little black kitten 8 months who was getting beat up outside and took up residency in the garage, graduated to the sun porch and now runs the household. The other is a beautiful calico 3-4 yrs old that had been around all summer, finally let me pet her a month ago. She started looking in the window every night when it got cold and now she sleeps in bed with me.(we all have these stories) how did I go from 2 cats to 4 in less than a month? The problem is my 2 boys, both neutered 5 and 2 yrs old. Little Emma (black kitten) went into heat the day before her spay. These girls have driven the boys crazy. My older boy "Abner" has started to urinate and defecate outside the box. NEAR the box...but outside. He did this when we rescued our Ernie cat last year but stopped a week or two after Ernie was neutered. The girls are behaving well and were spayed on Monday. I am assuming Abner will go back to using the box once the girls "essence" has worn off. How long does this take? We have 4 cat boxes I clean 2x daily. I had really intended to take these girls to a rescue group but NOBODY is accepting cats right now, the pound will have them put down in just a short time so is not an option. I have put my boys in danger, DH will not tolerate the boys bad behavior for long though Abner is HIS cat that HE brought home 3 years ago and it was HIS idea to bring Ernie in last year. He has already stated that "he is starting to hate cats". I know there is going to be a period of "bad behavior" because of new cats and also the "female" thing but how long will it take before everybody "settles down"?

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sylviatexas1
17 years ago
You're right, of course, this has been a big change, & the guys will eventually settle down, but you might try Feliway for the time being.

You can get it at Petsmart & similar places, & in my situation, it was a lifesaver.
lisa11310
Original Author
17 years ago
Feliway? Is that some type of cleaner for the carpet? I will try anything.
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readinglady
17 years ago
Feliway is a pheromone that calms cats and helps with behavior modification.

Here's one site that will give you information but there are lots out there.

Carol

Here is a link that might be useful: Feliway Info
lbr333
17 years ago
hey lisa, i hear you!! we're having similar challenges with 2 strays too many right now.....but the newest guy, who i was planning to re-home as soon as we got him healthy has wisely attached himself to my husband.....who is normally feline tolerant at best.....now they're buddies!! and naturally this is the boy who causes the most trouble....including missing the litter box and bullying my feral who is only just showing signs of friendliness after 2 years.....

but enough about my house!! :)

the feliway stuff looks like an option.....if you use it, please post the results for us.....

i got our latest addition neutered and waited for the trouble to end, and it seemed like it would never "settle down" around here......but i'm just starting to see the difference now.....especially among the boys.....

it's been about 9 weeks now.....

so have hope.....once those hormones re-adjust and the smells wear off around the house, with any luck, you can have a life beyond cleaning up and around litter boxes!!!

:)
Lisa
lisa11310
Original Author
17 years ago
thanks! LBR...It's Sunday and it is much calmed down. Little Emma is of course a "kitten" at 8 months and she is a tazmainian devil. She s the cutest little thing...I call her an ethopian cat because she is so skiney and long legged however her eyes are HUGE, take up most of her head...look like the "precious moment" colector dolls. But as I said with cats 3x her size she has taken over the house. The Calico is shy and calm she does not meow..but can growl and purr. I hope to not have to get rid of either of these girls..the boys are getting over the initial SHOCK of not only other cats in the house..but "ladies" in the house. Like you, Emma had made her cow eyes at DH, I don't think he can get rid of her now "unless she tears something of his up". LOL God has a hand in this I am sure.