"if I continue to just pick what I love"...then you'll end up with a home that you love.

Vintage, shabby, warm colors and texture, some modern elements, rustic, industrial. None of these descriptives you've used are mutually exclusive. In fact, I'd consider them a good blend that will keep your decor from being too shabby-chic or too harsh industrial. I've got elements of each of these in my home decor, and I really, really love my home.

Others will have more tangible advice than me. But you love what you love. Go with that.

You are completely normal feeling overwhelmed. There are so many lovely things out there to pick from. I think you should start a new post showing some of the things you have done so far. Explain you need help on a cohesive design for the rest. People here are great and at worse you can eliminate some ideas that might not jive.

Find a tutorial on graphic design or basic interior design and read it. Everything can be decomposed into line, shape, pattern, texture, proportion, color, repetition, focal points, etc. The trick is to repeat design elements and pay attention to proportion and focal points, so that you achieve balance.

If you are going for what you love, chances are you are doing some of this naturally. You don't have to adhere to a predetermined style. You can make your own.

One trick I do is download pics of things I like to my ipad, and use an app called pic stitch to view them side by side (usually 3 across, 2 down). That gives me a really good idea of what goes together. You can organize photos of things you like into photo albums on ipad, and pull from those and put different things together. Then you can see design elements you might repeat in different rooms to pull the whole house together. If you do this often enough, you'll develop a really good decisive eye for what works and what doesn't work, all from the comfort of an easy chair. It's fun! And you can save out your sample boards (pic stitch collages) for reference when you go shopping.

What a lovely problem to have :-) I like the suggestions so far: common colors throughout, repeating design elements, etc. This will bring cohesion to your multi-style approach. LOVE the space you are in, make it your own. If you like multiple styles, incorporate them all!

The "conventional wisdom" is to pick one style and go with it. If you ever watch HGTV makeover shows, you see they do that. But don't you find that boring after a while? I do!

Jo, of Chip & Jo of "Fixer Upper" gave an interview fairly recently where she talked about the newbie "design mistake" she made on the first house she did--her own house when she and Chip got married. Her "newbie mistake" was doing a different design in every room--a crisp navy blue and white nautical theme in the living room, a French country kitchen, etc., etc.

As I was reading, I thought, "That sounds like a really interesting, beautiful house!" I don't think it was a newbie mistake at all. Rather, I think we're all taught that the "one right way" is to make the whole house one big style choice, stifling the newbie's natural creativity and enthusiasm in the process.

There are certainly many homes with one style that are stunning. And there are mixed style homes that are a confusing mish-mash.

But it doesn't have to be that way! Your home sounds lovely! I love that you love many different styles and have incorporated them into your private family spaces! You obviously have a creative mind!

So in order to avoid the mish-mash problem, the other commenters have given excellent advice. Find one common element to bring to each room. Pops of color, a common material, common flooring, unique custom windows...the list could go on and on!

Yes, some pics would be great! And yes, the people here are really nice and would love to help you with more specific suggestions.

I applaud you for your creativity! Can't wait to see the whole level!

:-)

Thanks all! I will post pics soon.

I love all the suggestions above.

I have a friend who (as the majority of people) had very limited funds but a big desire to make her home cozy and beautiful. She had a lot a second hand furniture and other decor old and found, and when talking to me she expressed her concern everything in her home is different, second hand, etc, etc.

Next time I met her, I brought her a book as a gift. The book was called "Flea Market Style"

Later she told me it was amazing how calling things just a different name can be emboldening, empowering, and freeing.

She totally stopped worrying about herself being a design mess)) and instead of worrying things were old and found started enjoying the process of discovering and mixing and putting it all together.

Don't call yourself a design mess; there is a beautiful even though overused word "eclectic"..))

Or other words you can describe your unique style with. Maybe several words, not one. Style reflects us; we're multi-faceted beings...it's normal to love many different things.

Of course one still should be mindful in what he's doing because the house should be like you: multi-faceted but still recognizable as one unique person..I mean house)) It should also make sense with its architecture, surroundings, have cohesiveness, especially in fixed materials, etc, etc.

Not everything is easy to pull off. Eclectic style is especially not always easy to pull of.

But it's so much fun.

It's like in Andersen's fairy tales: remember how things and toys would have conversations and parties at night when people were sleeping?

Imagine things in your house talking to each other. Like guests at a party lol. Guest with different characters and personalities as guests usually are. What will make for a good conversation?

It will become much easier to see what works with what.

And it will be fun to figure it all out.

Looking forward to seeing the pics!

I'd love to see some pics of what you have so far, sounds charming!