Resurface? I assume you meant either refinish or paint, if so professionally painting those cabinets would cost several thousand $ to do it right. Unless you’re prepared to spend that much I would leave them alone. Yes, I would replace the backsplash.

I wouldn't do gray. You could try Benjamin Moore Grant Beige, which will go well with your floors and cabinets. It is a greenish-grayish-beige depending on the lighting in the room. It will look fresher, lighter and more up to date than your current color.

The backsplash needs to go!

I totally would change the backsplash, but gray would not be good for any part of your beautiful kitchen. It could throw everything off and start a chain reaction.

Forum advice on this thread:

“I don’t think I’d paint gray in the kitchen area though!”

“I wouldn’t do gray.”

“gray would not be good for any part of your beautiful kitchen.”

OP responds: “Thanks all! Will definitely stick with a beige - gray colour on the wall.“

Me: I am perplexed by this.