Because you will be acting as your own General Contractor, you will need to know all the relevant "things" about each and every project. It will be like learning a whole new career so that you can live with a torn apart house for a month or more (always add 30% more "time" to your estimates and 30% more $$$ over estimate for unexpected events).

You can remove the counters and backsplash first. You can then have someone come in and stain/paint the cabinets and doors (doors will be taken off-site and finished properly in a workshop and allowed to cure properly for the full "time" (can be weeks and weeks without doors/etc). The boxes will be dealt with "on-site". It is SUPER EASY for the cabinet professionals to do all the sanding/stripping/prepping/finishing when the counters are removed.

While the boxes are exposed, you will go to the stone yard to pick your stone(s). You will then sign/date the stone and take pictures (remember: you have become the GC and are responsible for all steps that a GC would take).

You will have the fabricators come into the house (boxes are still exposed) and have them take measurements (make sure you are on site and make sure that they use a LASER to do the measurements). You will then follow up with the fabricator and VIEW the slab(s) with the LAYOUT TEMPLATE in place. You will APPROVE all the 'cut' placements (ie. where the veins will sit when installed). And then sign/photograph the slab prior to being cut.

You can have the floors demolished and the subfloor left exposed sometime BEFORE the cabinets are finished...thus reducing the possible damage to the freshly finished cabs because of the jack hammer removing tile, etc.

You will allow the cabinetry guys to finish. Once they are finished, you can then allow the counter tops to be installed. You will then INSPECT the installed product and before anything else is done, you will sign-off on the project (you need to inspect seams which means you have to be EDUCATED in seams and know what you are looking for, industry standards, etc). Once this is done, you can then look forward to adding a backsplash either now or at a later date. Backsplashes can come as last or second to last...depending on how your decision making has been going.

I like to see the floors finished LAST. The subfloor prep for the floors can be done BEFORE the cabinets are finished or AFTER. It all depends on the preferences of the cabinet refinishers. Some are picky about dust on their newly finished cabinets, others are not.

Once the subfloors have been prepped, you can bring in the tile setter. At this point, the tile setter should be the only professional on the job site. S/he can also be the person to deal with the backsplash...and s/he can decide on timing. Some will do it while waiting for thinset to dry, others will do it first, and others last.

Whew. Fun isn't it?

If you are new at this, I suggest you sit down with ALL of your trades and ask their opinions of how THEY prefer to see things done. Again, this is where YOU have to understand the business of General Contractor.

Of course, a well trained Interior Designer can act as Project Manager as well as design inspiration. Everything listed above becomes the headache of the Designer, and not you.

Ask yourself if you have the time to deal with about a MONTH (could be as much as 2 months if your trades are busy or things are "out of stock" etc, etc, etc.) of running around and "inspecting" things and making "on the fly" decisions and be able to run to the space to deal with issues that WILL arise.

Not to mention the fun of waiting for trades who have been delayed on another project and can't get to your site for another 3-6 weeks. You will need a back-up plan for that.

Waste of money to keep an old 1999 Tahoe with 415,000 miles and just sand and paint the body. That’s lipstick on a pig.

Your first thing to do is get your financing in order.

Second is to find the right Kitchen Designer to design all of this and document everything correctly.

Third is to order everything and receive it.

Fourth is to set up a temp kitchen for the 8-26 weeks that you’ll be out of yours.

Fifth is to demo everything, cabinets included.

6th is to holler for help when nobody shows up because the GC who gives them 300K of work every year called and he out ranks you.

Very useful and helpful comments from S J McCarthy. Not so useful and/or helpful comments from Sophie per usual -- do you even have any clients? Why are you so rude? You can accomplish the same thing by being nicer.

OP - good luck on your remodel. It is a lot of work to be your own GC. Sorry I don't have any advice, except we had a GC and still had to add on time and money to the final tally. Par for the course, I guess.

Sophie is right, whether or not you like the message.