I am thinking of SW alabaster as well. Will be nice to hear some comments from those who might know the answer.

I am doing SW high reflective white for my cabinets. It is equivalent to BM chantily lace as a very true pure white. Doesn’t lean to yellow or blue. I know a lot of people also recommend Pure White.

Really liked this article:

https://www.kylieminteriors.ca/the-4-best-white-paint-colours-sherwin-williams/

I lean towards the softer whites, even off white. The right white for you will depend on the style in the rest of your home, how your kitchen is oriented to daylight, how much natural light you have, your lighting plan and bulb color temperature, 2700K or 5000K? etc.

Look for inspiration pics to point you in a general direction--then sample, sample, sample

Here is a recent Houzz article to consider New, softer color palettes

BM White Dove is a lovely, soft white.

You want a "white" with a gray undertone, somewhere between a light gray and a taupe depending on the wall shade you ultimately go with. If your walls will be SW 6072 Versatile Gray, take a look at SW 6070, Heron Plume.

This is what our kitchen looks like so far. It is a new build. Thank you all for your comments so far!!

These are our kitchen goals. This painter said the cabinets are alabaster. Love the color that shows here, the countertops, and backsplash

BUT I got a sample cabinet piece in alabaster and it does look yellow in certain light