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What are we reading in February 2020?

Annie Deighnaugh
15 days ago
last modified: 15 days ago

I'm working my way through The Body Keeps the Score, written by a doctor about both the physical and psychological symptoms and results that come from trauma: child abuse, neglect, violence as an adult, war, etc. I'm finding it very interesting, and I'm learning a lot. This is for our book group. I think it will yield a lot of good discussion.

If anyone is interested, there is a podcast of him discussing the book:

https://onbeing.org/programs/trauma-resilience-land-bodies-bessel-van-der-kolk-2/

As always, it's helpful if you bold titles if you can, rate the books 1-5 and say whether you think it'd be good for book group.

So what are you reading?

Comments (82)

  • Bunny

    Running, yes, you're so right. And she spent her entire life being told "but you don't look Jewish." Thanks for the recommendation. Although most of the hard facts come out very early in the book, she writes in such a compelling way, I couldn't put the book down. She felt like a very real person to me.

  • socks

    norar--what a coincidence you should mention Trustee from the Toolroom!! I haven't thought of that book in decades but stumbled across a copy in a used bookstore just a few days ago and remembered how I liked it. It's next up for re-reading, something I rarely do.

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    I lovelovelove this monthly topic because it yields suggestions for books I would never have encountered. Latest example: Trustee from the Toolroom is currently waiting for me to pick up from the library. Sounds like a wonderful premise and with the praise from those who have read it I have to explore this book.

    Thank you again Annie for starting this ongoing conversation and thanks to everyone who shares wonderful book tips. It's a reader's online heaven up in here that's for sure.

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    I echo everything runninginplace wrote! I'm a big Dani Shapiro fan, and am pretty sure I've read everything she's written. For those who enjoyed Inheritance, and may not know, Dani hosts a podcast now -about family secrets! Family Secrets Podcast

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    Bestyears, thank you for the podcast recommendation. Since my AppleWatch forces me to walk every freaking day I've discovered podcasts help keep me going.

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    I read Inheritance by Dani Shapiro last month. Bunny is right.. its very compelling. Both of my children were adopted at an early age, so I particularly enjoyed her thoughts on nature vs nurture. What makes each of us, us.

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    Now I am reading "The Girl with Seven Names." I think the topic is fascinating, but I find the writing to be distractingly unpolished. Yes, I know English isn't her first language, but she did have a co-author on it. But like I said, the topic is a complete page-turner for me.

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    Goodreads

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  • salonva

    Just jumping in to add my agreement with

    The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society

    The Whole Town is Talking

    Confederacy of Dunces

    I loved those - especially Guernsey


    I might add-

    The Story of Arthur Truluv


    I liked The Rosie Project well enough but I did not love it.


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    It is a book I would read again.

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