IMO you need to show your furniture pieces that will be in the spaces , the cabinets are only one part of the decision for wall color.

Very pretty kitchen & living room! Looks like your colors are still very warm even though your cabinets are gray. I would suggest going a bit darker on the predominant color -- for example, if your cabinets are like BM Rodeo 1534 then I would go to BM Northern Cliffs 1536. Do you have a paint deck? I would suggest getting one, color matching your cabinets and then you can determine wall color. For trim -- I love white trim -- makes the walls pop. For darker bathrooms, change up the color to something lighter. Let me know if you want more help :-)