What INSPIRES you for a kitchen? Simpler can be many things. .........: ) Post some insp pics. If you want a white kitchen, do the whole perimeter to a soft white. Lose the backsplash, add lighting over the island which could remain dark cherry, or be a color.

We can't even SEE what your tops are. What's your budget? You should allow about 6k to 8k ( locale depending ) to professionally paint the cabinetry

Here are some combinations you may like if you can envision them with your counter and new backsplash and last two would be a creamy vs stark white

If you're on a budget, changing out some solid cabinet doors for glass fronted ones might be more affordable than repainting the cabinets.

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And: Paint kitchen island a light cream and get very modern stools in a cream that matches the background of your granite. Add modern lighting as shown below, especially the pendant in dining area.

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Or two-toned kitchen with cream cabinets on top, keeping the cherry on the bottom.

Depends on your budget, but something "simple" would be to change the backsplash +/- counters. Or even paint the island and add a different countertop for it. Also add glass to the cabinets around the sink may be a nice "lighter" change. A runner on the floor can add some interest too. Good luck!

The cabinets appear to be in good condition. Unless you are willing to hire a true professional to paint them, you risk having them look crummy, especially if done in “greige”.
The Tuscan counter and backsplash are what really date your kitchen....so replace the counter, backsplash and island top (eliminating the overhang unless you have a couple of matching stools to put there).

This may help you decide:

https://mariakillam.com/how-to-update-90s-granite-and-make-it-disappear/

I would leave cabinets alone and replace backsplash. The backsplash alone is what looks Tuscan/dated. Maybe change counter, but I probably wouldn't if they are granite and I didn't absolutely hate them (I just don't like spending thousands of dollars). They look fine in the photos.

I think you can change the look by painting the island and change out the back splash.

So many great points to think about! I love that first inspo pic, Maureen. I had a similar color in mind for the cabinets. I was thinking cream or greige would go with the countertops but I also love the link you send @thinklovedesign. That pic with the blue cabinets seems like it would complement the counters too. I included two inspo pix of what I am thinking for cabinet colors. I feel like the dark wood makes my kitchen appear so dark and that’s why I’m keen on lightening them up vs. changing the counter

Also including a closer up pic of my counters for reference

You do not want to DEVALUE your home!! Griege paint will CHEAPEN what you have. It is unfortunate you chose a home that wan't "your style"--your plan is not one that will add to your investment. Remove the "tuscan" by swapping out the back splash for paint. I would implore you to try ANYTHING other than griege so you add some LIFE to your space. A counter top with less variations might suit you better--perhaps something in the calcutta look so you can get your gray in there. Dated before you finish is not what you want! WOOD is back in and GRAY is OUT..maybe do some forward looking searches, find what's trending up instead of fading out...

Your lighting is very yellow. I would change the ceiling and under cabinet bulbs to 4000K and reassess. Simple off white or textured subway tiles will create a new look. However, if you have a big budget, then professionally paint your cabinets (though I'm not sure the greige will go with flooring- though blue or cream will). However, I think you will then also be changing counters and backsplash too. Just depends on how much you want to spend.

Here is my own kitchen. The island is cream colored.

sherylag - what do you plan to do with your wood floors? Leave as is? Refinish in any way? Degloss? What you plan to do with that will set the tone for what you should or shouldn't do with the cabinets. It's all a domino effect...for instance, I personally think your current floors and cabinets do not mesh well at all. If you are planning to leave the floors as is I don't think you are devaluing the home to paint the cabinets. It's just a matter of finding the right paint. And you do that by having lots of large paint samples up in the space and evaluating with floor and counter to find the perfect shade. However, you will want to do your backsplash for sure in any case so best to find the perfect neutral that works with your counters (and this will need to be done before you paint). Getting lots of samples from local vendors is key - having them up in the space (with under cabinet lighting on)....so you need to make sure lighting is done first. See how the dominos are stacking up? Conversely, if you plan to refinish your floors then you will want to find a shade that harmonizes with your existing cabinet color....and then focus on the perfect backsplash tile after the floors are done.