Are you changing anything else or just the windows?

https://www.houzz.com/discussions/6228705/replacement-windows

https://www.houzz.com/discussions/6228343/black-or-white-windows

Right now we are just replacing the windows and the lights. We are trying to renovate the house in stages

If changing the exterior lighting, fixtures should all be 1/3 of the front door's height. I can't show you how black windows would look, but your home is so pretty at night with the lighting, I think you might get an undesirable "black hole" effect with black windows. Maybe you should select paint for the siding and trim first and use a window color based on that. Of course, window colors are more limited than paint choices, but I'm more in favor of matching windows to trim color on your home.

Your house is Very pretty as is...I would not change to black!

I agree that the windows would look like black holes. White is so much more appropriate to the style of your house, which is very attractive.

Not every house is meant to be modern farmhouse style. With a hipped roof and brick on more than half the facade you're never going to get there. Don't try to make it be something it isn't, embrace it for what it is.