No expert here, but my first instinct would be to do a white wash over it the, a grey wash. Maybe someone who actually knows can give you suggestion. Have you tried googling?

Thanks for the advice. I was thinking along the same lines as you. I have spent quite a bit of time googling it and have seen all different answers. I went ahead and bought some pine 2 x 4’a to practice with before doing my door

Great advice…thank you!

You can mix paint into a water based polyurethane finish. I saw someone on this site do that for her red oak floors to tone down the red. You can also get a white stain. Pine can take stain unevenly so some use a sanding sealer to help. But I know of someone who used a sealer then the stain didn't soak in hardly at all.

Yes the problem I have been having with the sealer is the stain is not soaking into the pine at all. Even after letting it sit on the wood for an extending period of time it seems to just wipe right off. I never thought of mixing paint into polyurethane; I will have to give that a try. Thanks!