What white? Lighting? Flooring? Is that your new counter top sample piece? Picture of the entire kitchen?

Yes, that is a picture of my granite o just had installed. I will be refacing the cabinet doors

I am replacing the lighting to can lights, but I was thinking about putting 2 or 3 pendant lights above the sink counter. Not sure of the white color yet, or if I should possibly do a medium grey lower cabinet and upper white cabinet Thoughts?

Do the backsplash last. Decide on the cabinet paint first. The tiles you show with the sample granite pair well. I would get a white paint that is similar to that tile and the background white of the granite.

No to gray lowers. I am a fan of gray, unlike many who will insist is is out of style ( it isn’t)

but I don't like it for cabinetry.

Subway tile is usually 3x6 and is appropriate for traditional transitional kitchen cabinet styles.

The tile you show is 3 x 12 and is appropriate for more of a contemporary or MCM kitchen.

Interesting, thank you. This tile is a greige like color that i have pucked out. I really like the way it pairs with the agreeable grey walls i have. I was looking for a smaller tile originally, but couldn't find anything in the same color.

These are the pics in progress of my kitchen update

Are you not re-doing the floors? If not, it looks like you will have a warm/cool clash on your hands, so choose the white of your cabinets carefully. The color will need to blend warm of the floors and cool of the countertop. Then, once painted, choose your backsplash.

I would keep the wood cabinets, and add a backsplash to match the warmest color in your countertop.

This is another backsplash I am thinking about. I would not install vertically, but thought the colors go nicely as well. So which backsplash looks better, #1 or #2?

cabinets are fine....you need a new floor to work with the counters. Money available should go to a lighting plan too.

Yellow Honey Oak cabinets and expsed hinges are very dated where I live. Refacing to shaker doors and painting white. The lighting will be changed to can lighting.  The lighting is really throwing everything off as there are all warm colors, including the countertops.  Really need help with the backsplash.

i dont think the two samples are enough to choose from. its hard to visualize as there will be new lighting and so on........refacing along with painted cabs means you arent going to have the same space at all.....so how can one really say? dont care for the vertical lay of the 2nd and the first with the beige grout is okay but the grout isnt right....pick that one if you must but a different grout....

If you were going to ”update”, the counter should have been made a single level. With a warmer counter choice, and keep the wood cabinets. Warm wood cabinets are THE hot trend right now.

Eliminating the wood will only make the kitchen clash worse with the warm floor than that cold gray counter clashes right now. And the warm cool clashes pretty badly. The counter was a mistake. BIG mistake. And unless you are going to double down and compound the mistake by redoing all the floors, and the whole rest of the house, you are only digging yourself in deeper hole thinking a backsplash can resolve the clash you created.

The cheap option here is to stop digging your hole and redo the counters. Rather than give a mouse a cookie and finding yourself in the middle of a 200K whole home redo to fix the cold warm clash you just created. No backsplash will ”fix” that that.

Keep whatever backsplash you choose in the warm family to tie to the floor tile, which is very warm. An ivory should work. Subway tile is timeless.

Lighting is obviously playing havoc in the kitchen  for me at the moment. This countertop goes perfectly with the old backsplash, which also goes with the flooring. The countertop is warm and has more beige, and lnot much grey.

Why not keep the existing backsplash? I love your granite, BTW. Looking forward to seeing your completed kitchen. I’m sure it will be beautiful.

Thanks for the encouragement Tina. The current backsplash is just not to my liking. I really like the granite as well. It seems to be like a chameleon and changes depending on the lighting. It is definitely a warm granite and the reason I choose it.

My refaced kitchen.

Redryder great pictures and great advice. Thanks for sharing