Went with white about 12 years ago - light and bright and makes me happy. I like being able to see when a cab needs cleaning :)

White cabinets for 4 years (egret white). LOVE them. No issues.

In the houses we have owned I've had white, stained, stained, stained and white kitchen cabinets. I was tired of stained and went with white when we built in 2021. No regrets, because I wanted a brighter feel for this house. Yes, it is a bit more delicate, specially when other family members don't notice things like that.

As far as cleaning, I would rather see that something is dirty, than have the dirt be camouflaged.

My DH spilled some chocolate powder the other day and didn't even see it all down the front of the white cabinets! I immediately saw the brown stains and pointed them out for him to wipe up. Had they been stained cabinets, I would probably wonder why we had ants and/or why the dog was licking the drawer fronts!!

Get what you love. Clean up any accidents right after they happen, and it will minimize any issues, no matter what color cabinets you choose. I have gray cabinets, never had white. I love the look of a white kitchen though!