Recessed lighting at cabinets needs to light the COUNTER TOPS. Not the top of any cabinet, so the height of your uppers is therefore irrelevant.

You want the recessed in FRONT of the cabinet to shine down on the counter. I would not use 6 inch anything. Use four inch max, unless you like the look of flying saucers.

The sink area is up to you, two recessed works there very well unless you are in love with a particular surface mount fixture. Add under cabinet lights if you like.

Discuss all with the electrician. Especially locale for a hanging fixture if you pan to remove a banquette.

The electrician will advise you.......

I think I need some pics an exposed ceiling painted black says basement to me so a bit more info . Yes to all of Jan's comments . Please post more info here in a comment DO NOT start another post.

Thank you Jan! The electrician does not seem very knowledgable about setting up kitchen lighting. They were just going to space out, 2 cans on the table side and 3 cans on sink side, evenly across the ceiling. They got the 6” cans, and ive read conflicting thoughts on 4” vs 6”. But i thought with them being farther apart maybe the 6” would be okay. Also because of the open-rafter black ceiling, I was thinking the baffel trim should be black too. so maybe that would look better too. I’ll talk to them about exchanging the 6” for 4”.

i didnt know, because of the ceiling being at 85” and the cupboards being at 78”, (or if i decided to go with open shelves) if that would change how far out from the wall id place the lights. Would placing the lights about 17 inches out from the wall work right?

And you mean the fridge will have its own light, so no need to put any there, right?

yes probably a vent or microwave with light above the oven.

I also plan to put the sink light and the table light on its own switch and all lights on dimmers.

Your kitchen designer should have created a lighting plan. You will need a whole lot of lighting, on dimmers, if you are doing a black ceiling. Tape uplighting on top of the cabinets as well as under cabinet lighting wouldn't be out of the question here. The bigger question is how a permit to build this out was granted with so many obstructions to achieving the 84" minimum finished ceiling code height. That's after drywall or the dropped ceiling tiles are installed. No open ceilings.

Yes, be sure the cans ( Or basically the ray- beams of whatever lighting is used) are placed just about over the front part of the counters that extend beyond the uppers. Or some at least, as could also have others further out in kitchen space, depending on size of kitchen. I still like additional under cabinet lighting for mid- to - back counter area and would especially want that for darker- colored counters. Regardless of natural light, because , nighttime.
So “ evenly spaced “ might be right or might be wrong if the electrician is not paying any attention to where the light falls and the kitchen layout.