I think your husband has the only important vote, not people on the internet who care about what's 'dated' in your house.

Fwiw, I have a 4 poster canopied bed which is probably 40 years older than yours (I bought it vintage) and it would never occur to me to ask strangers whether they thought I should get rid of it over my husband's preferences.

Those are my thoughts.

(Your post made me recall the time I was looking into a furnished rental in a village in Italy, and my about-to-become landlady, who was elderly, pointed at the beautiful polished tiger maple wood bed in the master suite and announced: '''Sono nato in quel letto!'' -- " I was born in that bed!" Never would have occurred to her to give up a good bed -- and it was quite comfortable as I soon learned! -- and perhaps not especially one that had meant something to her family.

Interestingly, the apartment I was renting was actually a practically new construction, built from the ground up with the stones from a fallen down an abandoned farm, and it was her husband's retirement investment. The apartment had all new applliances and bathrooms, and plenty of IKEA rattan chairs mixed in the family lace curtains and bed, and what I guess was the family salt and pepper shakers too.

I don't know. Ask your husband again how he feels about his bed. )

If you’re tired of it, you can let him know that you want something “fresh for the new house”.

Meshing design styles in a relationship can be difficult. Although I don’t personally like that bed, I don’t know what your options for a replacement are, and given that your husband likes it, that does complicate the matter. Many times furniture doesn’t work in a new house as well as it did in an old house. If you have something different in mind, maybe discuss with him that you are thinking about taking the opportunity to find something that you both like and show him your preference.

I've had the same bedroom furniture for 20 years. It was very expensive for us then but it was extremely good quality and has survived unblemished at least 10 moves (military family). However, its too big for the room we have now and I'm ready to pass it on and gain 16" of floor space (LOL--its a king sleigh bed). It took my husband and I years to finally agree to let it go but now we're looking forward to a new style. Your husband will probably get there too (maybe after having to move that big bed one more time--wink wink).

I'm just stuck on all the pillow on your bed. Holy smokes. Where do you put them all when you sleep? My husband goes with the flow on so many decor decisions that when he has strong opinions, I really like to honor them. If the bed feels painfully ugly to you that is one thing. But if you just want something new, can you stick with this? This bed really needs a big room. Will it look ok in another bedroom? Will it satisfy him to have it in another room or does he want it in your room?

see no reason to not use that one in a really awesome guest room and get a new one for the new house. I find usually hubby just does not want to spend the money so maybe talk about that abit. I am lucky mine has often voiced an opinion on stuff he likes and sometimes we work it in, give and take for me thta has been our motto for 60+ yrs.

I also like that 4 poster bed. Use it in a spare room. A good marriage is love and lots of compromising. I have a 40 year old Shaker styled bedroom set with a 4 poster bed, that I will keep 4ever!! My husband likes my decorating style; so I am a lucky girl. Congratulations on your new home!!

" Honey, I just don't love our heavy looking bed anymore/. What if we use this in our guest room and we pick something else we both love for our room"

Can I show you a few, sweetie, that I love?"

For the love of the lord ladies. !!! THIS ISN'T THE MARRIAGE COUNSELING SITE OR AM I UP TOO EARLY? LOL!

As P.C.C above:

"give and take for me, that has been our motto"

It's always the motto, or you'll have attorney fees that hopefully will not negate your getting whatever bed you want, and having it all to yourself: )

Have you shown pictures to your husband of updated versions of a traditional room he (and you) might like? That may change his mind.

Will the set overwhelm guest room and is he ok with it going in there, as you don’t want to move it for nothing.

Interesting replies on this post & I laughed out loud at Kendrah’s notes on all the pillows! I love throw pillows too & some of my family pokes fun at me for it but the number of pillows on this bed beats me hands down. My thoughts are less about consideration for the husband’s opinion on a new bed & more about decor. This room is a distinct style in furnishings. Are all those furnishings making the move to new home? If not, a new style of bed may be in order. And, what about the mattresses on this bed? They don’t last forever. so if it’s time to update them, maybe a new bed is a logical choice? But, I do agree a guest room might make good use of an older bed. That’s where mine went when we moved & updated.

Thank you for your valuable insight everyone! We do compromise, and we've actually found a replacement one that we both like. While he really likes it, he's fine if I want to give it away as well. He's pretty easy going. I just didn't know if it was too out of date for any room I guess! The reason there are so many pillows is because my husband needs four to sleep with as his hips are going out due to two complete knee surgeries. I need two, one to lay my head on and one to go against the headboard, keeping my pillow from going too far back. I do have a rectangular wedge but it still does not do the job completely. The others are indeed for décor purposes only. ;)