I am not sure that I am reading your post correctly. Do you feel that there is a lot of clashing between the floors/cabinets/countertops - OR - between those three and the paint color? I agree that the paint color does not work with what you have. However, on my screen, the cabinets/floors/countertops appear to work together (although, the countertops are mostly covered by stuff - makes it difficult to really see how they look).

SW Alabaster paint would look good in your kitchen, and go with the cabinets, and countertops, and floor. I would also paint the ceiling alabaster. What color is the paint in the living room?

The living room is agreeable gray with an accent wall that is Cushing green.

And yes basically the wall paint is the only thing I can change right now so whatever I can paint it to make the rest of the colors work.

You could also lighten agreeable gray a bit, and paint the kitchen with that too. That way, it will all flow together.