woah the backsplash makes my eyes dizzy. maybe change it to a lighter colour like ivory or sand tones? no pattern or something subtle that wont distract.

if you keep dark cabinets and countertops as is:

if you keep dark cabinets as is and change countertops to lighter colour:

if you happen to feel cabinets are too heavy.. you could replace a few of the doors with glass too:

hope this brings forth a few ideas for you. ^^